I am tired and exhausted by how “discussions” round prostitution are controlled by a constant search for two unicorns.
The unicorn of the prostituted women who have never had bad experiments, is completely in control, has no past experiences of sexual violence, and is able to leave at any time.
The other unicorn that others are desperate to discover is the good punter – the punters who would report any abuse or under-aged prostitutes without testing the goods first, the punter who would not dream of making the prostitute into living porn, you know that Richard Gere punter.
Well, if you are on the search for these unicorns, you are more than wasting your time, you are diverting the work of the abolitionist movement.
Look within yourself, why you need there to be good punters and happy hookers – why do have the need to make the reality vanish.
I know many prostituted women who when deep inside the sex trade who will say they are happy and in control.
I also know that their words are the language of the sex trade – the language to please the punters, the language to avoid punishment from sex trade profiteers, the language of defiance when in the public gaze.
It not the words of freedom, it is not words that comes knowing their authentic selves – it is the language of the brain-washed, the language of the tortured, it is the language of women who can no longer imagine hope.
This is what you find in your search for your happy prostitute.
What I want to know, what most exited women want to know – why do believe every word that prostituted woman says when in front of your eyes it is clear she is in conditions of torture.
I know that many women beaten by their partners will say many times that everything is good, say how much in love they are.
But most feminists would not take their word for it.
The same with acquaintance rape. The language of maybe he didn’t understand that she didn’t want it, that she wants to forgive him, that it must have been her fault somehow.
These are words we choose not to believe.
But if a prostituted woman said she is happy – then we discount her past, we make invisible any present violence and degradation , and we make the choice to poison her future.
We refuse to see any past for the prostituted woman when it is decided she must be happy.
We cannot allow that she may have been abused as a child; we must discount that she enter the sex trade from poverty; we ignore that she lied to, coerced or threaten to become a prostitute; heck, we must destroy any past of pain and confusion to make into our happy prostitute.
We cannot see that being paid to be a sexual object feels and is being raped over and over and over and over again; we mustn’t know that most punter pay to sexually torture the prostituted; we mustn’t know that most prostituted survive by being so dead that none can matter.
All this must vanish, so others can believe in the unicorn of the happy prostitute.
That is a betrayal of all of the prostituted.
Looking for the unicorn of the good punter is not just wrong, it is also endangering for the prostituted.
If all you care about is finding that good punter – then you can live with ignoring the extreme violence and hate that nearly every single man who make the choice to buy the prostituted puts into her.
You will abandoned the prostituted, or they get in the way of your rose-tainted scenery. For that I will damned you to hell.
One myth of the good punter is the concept that punters will say and even shop if there are prostituted women in danger, if he sees prostituted may be trafficked, that the prostitute is under-aged, that the prostitution is run by crooks.
This is utter bullshit – but it is nice to believe such rubbish.
Punters know and don’t care that all those types of prostitutes are easy to access. Most punters see and hear the prostitutes being beaten, raped and mentally tortured – even if he make the choice to be “gentle”, he is in the environment where he has full permission to be sadistic.
I hate to burst your balloon - but if punters do report abuse or trafficking, it is usually to save his own skin in fear of being arrested or having his name known. He would have fucked the prostitute before he chooses to report it – he gets his money worth.
There is no such thing as the good punter – for if a man has “good” in him he would not even think to buy a prostitute for his selfish sexual wants.
If a man is to be good, he will part of the movement for the complete abolition of prostitution – not looking for the endless excuses for why men must have the prostituted class.
Just remember there are no unicorns – forget the myth of the Happy Hooker and the good punter.
Stop getting in the way of abolition – for prostituted women and girls are being destroyed as you hunt a dream.