Although I am very proud for others to use my words, especially to campaign against the sex trade. I want and need to have my permission asked.
For me, this more than basic manners – it also because I had my identity stolen by the sex trade.
Having my words used without my permission is no small thing to me, it is violation of my right to an identity and to be a full human.
This is because the vast majority of those who make the choice to use my words without bothering to contact me, do so to undermine my truths, and more than often to support views that I oppose.
My words are used to portray me as a sad, damaged and isolated victim. My words are separated from other prostituted women, and made to seem just bad luck, bad choices – hell, she was always in the wrong place at the wrong time.
My words are stripped of any politics, stripped of my constant remainder that my realities are only written of, coz I know it is happening to million of women and girls now.
I may be called an abolitionist, but that is only to ridiculed me.
Those who want to ridicule me, pity me, shame me, place themselves above me, see me only as a victim – they will never ask permission to mis-use my words.
I do not write to them, for they see me as sub-human, so my words would make no sense to them.
I write to those who consider themselves to be my ally, but still don’t think it is important to ask my permission to use my words.
That is a betrayal.
Let me make it very clear, I have lived in a world where my identity was stolen, where I had no rights over my existence.
So I need to have my permission asked for spreading out parts of my soul and my political actions.
To be prostituted is to have no identity.
Most johns and profiteers never give you a name, or re-name you to suit their porn fantasy or increase the profit.
I was filmed for cheap porn, I had no rights over how my image or my very existence was used. I was never asked permission.
I had no identity, I was goods to used until I was thrown away.
That is why I need control over how my words are used.
I am very proud to send my words out into the world, but I try my damnest to make sure they not betrayed over and over and over.
So have some respect, if you truly say you care about the rights and dignity of exited prostituted women.