Now I am listening to this beautiful song by Aaron Neville, and I feel it could be my motto.
I want to write to say telling it as it is is not a form of therapy for me – unless it a therapy that makes me very sick.
Telling it as it is is not a cure for my past, it will not stop what happened to me, it will not stop what happened to so many that I knew.
Telling it as it is is not said to give easy answers, to say a step-by-step way out. God, if I knew that I would screaming at every government in the world the solution.
There is massive sadness in telling as it is.
To be a truth-sayer is to carry grief, to know a rage that could drown you, to be sick as the truth is spoken and for days after.
But to be a truth-sayer is to forge a path to say the sex trade is not inevitable.
How can it be. The sex trade was just an invention of men for their convenient. Sure it was invented before written history, so men can pretend it was always there, so what’s the point in trying to rid the world of it.
Men speak of prostitution as if it was some accident that landed here. As if it is as natural as mountain ranges, oceans – always here, always will be here.
But there is nothing natural about prostitution – unless you have a world-view that rape, sexual torture, making women and girls in fuckable goods, making these goods so disposable that their deaths can be made invisible. If you accept that, then maybe prostitution is ok.
But lets look at some of the concepts of prostitution – and ask why men invented them.
The major concept of prostitution is the buying and selling of women and girls just so men can get sexual kicks.
This goes throughout all history we know of, and much of history we have no access to. This concept is so great for men, that it cuts across countries, across cultures, across times.
This goes with another concept of prostitution, that because men have tons of fantasies of porn, so there must always be a wide variety of prostituted women and girls.
Across the centuries, there has always been many categories of the prostitution – all these roles were invented by men for their porn-fantasy.
There has always been the high-class escort, she is given many name – courtesan, girlfriend material and goddess the most popular.
There has always many variety of indoors prostitution, they are given many names – brothel worker, bawdy houses workers, working in a house of ill repute, sex worker, temple worker, sauna/parlour worker are popular terms.
There has always be the prostitute who viewed as dirt, there are given many names – street-based prostitutes, whores, trafficked women.
Hell, men place labels all over the prostituted woman and girl, pretending he somehow treat her different if she is a whore or a courtesan.
But, all prostituted women and girls are disposable goods. He will own her whatever label he puts on her.
In that ownership, if she displeases him, whether she knows it or not – he is entitled to bash her, to rape her and he can murder if he wants.
She is his property to do as his will – no label will protect her, especially when the label has nothing to do with who she is as a full human being.
A concept in prostitution is that there will an endless supply of women and girls for men to fuck.
Thoughout history, this supply has been through plunder in wars, through poverty of women and girls, through the sex trade coming along to pick up women and girls after natural disasters, through getting girls who are damaged by previous sexual violence.
Hell, the sex trade takes advantage of using women and girls who have lost hope, who do not know love without being used, who have nowhere left to turn.
Prostitution thrives on the desperation of women and girls.
And then it invents the myth that prostituted women and girls have freely chosen their lifestyles.
That is a concept, that is a huge sick joke.
It is a concept that means the sex trade can make a huge profit – for it for centuries, say the men that use prostitutes can be guilt-free, for she wants it.
In this concept, they invent a portrait of the whore that lets men off the hook.
He can rape her without guilt – coz she cannot be raped, it is her work to give sex to whoever owns her.
He can torture her without guilt – for she enjoys it, she has a different level of pain, a different moral compass, she loves the danger.
He can even murder her without guilt – it helps if just murder one by one, then it will go unreported. But if he wants to be famous, serial kill a few whores, and maybe a film or book will made about him.
He did all this for she is sub-human, so it will not matter.
I speak about these concepts with some sarcasm, for that stops the pain, terror and grief of being forced into those roles.
My rage cannot be stemmed that too many view that this world as inevitable.
A world where it would be called genocide, if there was not a constant replacement of women and girls destroyed by prostitution.
A world where those women lucky enough to exit, are left with extreme trauma.
There is nothing inevitable about that world.
We cannot allow men to have the right to buy and sell women for sexual exploitation – not if that includes mass rapes, brainwashing, sexual tortures, exploitation of girls, and murder.
Is there any other legitimate and non-sweat shop work , where those conditions would be acceptable.
I always thought owning another human being, and making sure they are stripped of all rights and dignity – wouldn’t that be named slavery.
Oh no, men invented the concept of prostitution, so it must be separate from slavery.
All I say, when in the middle of prostitution, it sure as hell is close to slavery.