I am very sick and tired of the betrayal of escorting as a fun, high-earning and trendy for bored privileged women to dip into the sordid world of prostitution.
It has nothing to do with the day-to-day reality for most escorts. Most escorts are in as much danger as any other aspect of prostitution, are highly likely to earn a lot less than they were promised.
The bottom line is like all other forms of prostitution, escorts are under the power and control of managers and johns.
How they choose to frame the escort’s existence is a game to them – and is a matter of life and death to many escorts.
The sex trade has always framed escorting as the positive side of the sex trade – given them other names – high-class whores, courtesans, girlfriend experience.
But why do you buy the sex trade’s lies. When you disbelieve arms traders saying they care about peace, disbelieve racist saying it just we all have to find our own levels.
You believe without questioning that escorting is safe, is respectful to the women that do it, that it is easy to leave – that in many ways it is not really prostitution.
Why cannot you think deeper – and question what it is to brought and sold, even when wrapped up with champagne and dinners out, the escort is a prostitute.
She has no rights – only the rights to do and be whatever the john wants, and whatever her manager have framed her as.
She is goods – like all prostitutes, her humanity is stripped away.
All that matters is she fulfils as many john’s porn-dream as possible, and she then may earn enough to blank it out.
If johns choose to treat her with “respect” and are relatively non-violent, that is a relief.
But often there is a sickness even there. Many “gentle” johns are very mentally abusive.
They may want get under her skin by asking many, many, many personal questions – until she is worn out and let something slip.
They may push her to kiss when there is a no kissing rule.
They go to the edge of violence, and then say they were only joking.
But these johns are rare – most johns buy an escort to use as his personal porn-doll for a long period of time.
Rape is common, beatings are common, sexual torture is totally acceptable – christ the sex trade will sort it out if the john murders the escort.
All this violence is the foundation of all aspects of prostitution – why would escorting be any different.
The only difference is that the sex trade can be effective at making sure it hidden from the public gaze.
If violence slips out to the public gaze – the sex trade will lie saying it must have been a crazy john, must have been illegal practices going on, must have been that the escort misunderstood her job or was crazy herself, was something that done without their knowledge.
Their lies are pathetic – but far too many so-called intelligent people choose to believe them.
The truth is that money is made in escorting by supplying the extras – that is mainly sadistic sex. That is what the sex trade is hiding.
It not well hidden, it doesn’t need to be – when so many want to believe escorting is safe, respectful to women and empowering..
Open your eyes – see the agony, fear and despair that is the norm for the majority of escorts.
It not separate from the rest of prostitution – don’t play the sex trade’s game.