What Sort of a Choice

When outsiders speak of porn and or prostitution, there is an assumption that some adult women have chosen freely to be doing it. Well, in this post I write of some of the many reasons why it not a free choice.

If you can prove that the woman you are thinking of is free of all these reasons – then maybe she could have freely chosen to be inside the sex trade.

It could be a free choice, if the women before entering the sex trade was not been treated as nothing but sexual goods, whether through sexual abuse or mental violence.

It could be a free choice, if the woman came from a background where she was respected for her mind and soul, not seen an object to be used and often abused.

It could be a free choice, if her background is one where she understand love, love without sex, love of true friendship, love of being someone who matters.

It could be a free choice, if she has not learnt to survive her life by becoming a runaway.

It could be a free choice, if she is not surrounded by the media, by advertising, by the arts, by common sayings – that being inside porn or becoming a whore is an easy way out of her everyday life, and may get her money.

It could be a free choice, if she is not going with peers who see no harm in selling your body.

It could be a free choice, if some of those peers are not pushing that girl into going with men, just this one time, do it for me if you love me.

It could be a free choice, if during the first fuck, the first photo-shoot, the first knowledge that goods or money is being exchange – that the woman/girl does not go dead inside.

It could be a free choice, if the woman inside long-term porn and or prostitution, is never raped, is never battered, is never made to be sexually tortured.

It could be a free choice, if the woman or girl never takes drugs, never drink to deaden herself, never has a fucked-up sleep pattern, never is made to do plastic surgery.

It could be a free choice, if her cultural, ethic, class or age are not just used as ways for her to be brought and sold.

It could be a free choice, if she could turn away a man just for appearing violent – not after he has raped, tortured and on occasions murdered.

It could be a free choice, if just being inside the sex trade does not means there a terrible likelihood of an early death – whether through murder, “accident” or suicide.

It could be a free choice, if there are no STDs, no internal injuries, no regular abortions – no talk of that just being the risk of the job.

It could be a free choice, if the trauma of the women lucky enough to exit is not more intense than the majority of soldiers, worse than many victims of political torture.

It could be a free choice, if no woman or girl had to smile and perform the happy hooker whilst the punters and profiteers treat her as trash and a sexual object to torture.

It could be a free choice, if she is viewed by the men that used and sell as a full human – not just as holes to fill, not having hands only to masturbate men and guide them into those holes.

It could be a free choice, if she is not just a role to fit inside men’s porn-dreams – not the high-class hooker who loves giving men a good time, not the woman/girl in a sauna who just loving doing blow-jobs, not the street-prostitute who will paid little but is grateful anyway, not the woman or girl brought over a computer who will do his housework and be a whore in bed etc etc .

It could be a free choice, if the woman inside porn and or prostitution has never and can never imagined attempting suicide.

It could be a free choice, if every single man using a prostitute of any type will be guaranteed never ever to use physical, mental or sexual violence on the prostitute.

It could be a free choice, if every piece of porn made is not real violence, not real rape, not real pain, not real fear.

It could be a free choice, if no woman or girl is not push into more violence or sexual acts that harm her, to earn a living wage.

It could be a free choice, if no profiteer of the sex trade did not steal most of the so-called wages of many women and girls in the sex trade.

It could be called a free choice, if there is no market for under-aged girls in all aspects of the sex trade.

It could be called a free choice, if there is no market for externally trafficked women and girls – especially a market where these girls and women are closed from the outside world or allow to learn the language of the country they are moved to.

It could be a free choice, if all women and girls had decent wages and access to long-term jobs.

There are some of the many, many reasons to question if is a free choice to be inside the sex trade.

I am sure you and I can think of many more reasons – but if you do find the mythical woman who has freely chosen to inside porn and or prostitution – then look very carefully at her full life.

Do not just at the small moment that she is inside the sex trade – think of how she got there, think of the many reasons not to know the reality of being inside the sex trade, and try to imagine that if she does exit what trauma she may be left with.

Remember a major way to survive the hell that is the sex trade – is say loudly and in a robot-tone, that it is freely chosen and what you want.

When in reality, it is the choice of someone trapped in a brick-up mine who been their so long, they have forgotten there is any other existence.

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