I have had enough.
Had enough of continually being at events and demonstrations with the focus on violence against women and girls, and violence inside the sex trade is either not mention or seen as a tag on.
Often the only reason that violence inside the sex trade is briefly mention, is only to compare and contrast with other forms of male violence.
I am sick of the severity of the tortures and extreme brainwashing being made into an appendix for the movement against male violence.
This is not just insulting and deeply patronising, but also is a refusal to see and know that the violence inside the sex trade is the foundation stones for all other violence done to women and girls.
It is a refusal to take seriously how deeply political it is to be fighting against the sex trade for exited women – instead we are kept as individual stories of victims, women healing and survivors.
Our voices of fighting for abolition, our voices of rage, our strategies to get real change, our use of our experiences to be an example of common practice of the sex trade – those voices are only allowed out if it kept tame, and structure inside the general debate about male violence.
It can seem like Andrea Dworkin never existed, that the thousands of years of exited women’s voices never existed – that our pain and rage has no purpose, but to place into academic research or to be some feel-good speech, so others can pretend that violence inside the sex trade is a secondary issue.
I have enough of being an appendix. I have had enough of brilliant exited women who speak and write out being patronised.
I do not believe that there is much point in fighting against violence against women and girls, until the violence inside the sex trade is seen as the centre, and must be in the forefront at every move to end male violence.
For the violence inside the sex trade feeds the male brain with methods of violence, it teaches the violent male that it is of no important and he will get away with it.
The sex trade provides a whole class of women and girls that men can be as violent as they want to, and there will be no consequences, no punishment, no guilt and everything for males to gain.
I have enough of so many women who campaign against violence against women and girls, being part of the society that refuses to see and know this extreme violence.
Every form of violence done to women and girls outside the sex trade is rehearse on those inside the sex trade.
Every torture you may campaign against is done on a regular basis to women and girls inside the sex trade.
All rapes and sexual tortures you can imagine, and much more beyond your imagination, is done to women and girls inside the sex trade.
Women and girls inside the sex trade disappear and or are murdered at the highest rate of any group of women and girls.
That is what is made into an appendix.
I never understand how we can get rid of male violence if we don’t listen to the voices of exited women – their voices would teach the depths of male hate and coldness when violent to women and girls.
Exited women see connections of how porn feeds rape, porn feeds how men choose to view women in private, porn feeds a sense that violent men knows they are superior and can do no wrong.
Exited women feel the connections as they feel they were made into sexual goods so others could imagine it prevents rape to real women, they feel as they read or hear of deaths of disappeared prostituted women and girls and others see it as non-news.
It is in those times we are continually reminded that even as exited women, we are viewed as sub-humans.
Our fear, our pain, our confusion, our fight for a stable life and our deaths are made of no importance.
We must always be an afterthought.
I have had enough.