I need to write on the constant use of prostitution as a metaphor – and often how it is used in comparison with men having affairs.
It is not the same. It is not a metaphor for the women and girls enduring prostitution. I would more than grateful if others stop using the language of prostitution when it is nothing to do with that life.
All I ask is that others take more care with their language, and stop continually creating the prostituted as sub-humans.
POLITICIANS/BUSINESSMEN ARE NOT PROSTITUTES
I do how often I hear that men in power have prostituted themselves – by being corrupt.
That is not prostitution – that is not being oppressed, that is being in the position of the oppressed.
Sure, everyday and everywhere men in power are corrupted, and in that corruption they use and oppressed other to hang on to their power.
That could said to be the position of the pimp – never the prostitute.
Are these powerful men being made into sexual goods, being raped on a regular basis, being an object that will thrown away – like hell, they are.
They are not prostitutes.
They are pimping out their countries, pimping out the workers they have under them – they are not being pimped out.
Don’t make these men into victims – see them as power-mad, and fear how they use that power. But don’t be fooled that they are to be felt sorry for.
IT IS BETTER THAN HAVING AN AFFAIR
This is driving me mad at the moment – the concept that if a man goes with a prostitute rather than having an affair, there is no harm done.
Wow, that is only true if you view the prostitute as sub-human, as an object to be used and thrown away whenever a man cannot get all he wants at home.
No harm is done, when you view the prostitute as having no human emotions and having no life outside being a fuck-toy for punters to use.
Most punters who used prostitutes are in stable relationships, most want the prostitute to be there to be used to do sex acts that he thinks his wife/girlfriend may not accept or may be disgusted by.
This not because his partner is a prude, a puritan or hates sex – no in the vast cases, he may have a good and satisfying sex life with his partner, but may want to have his porn-fuelled fantasies fulfilled.
This means the prostitute is used for sadist sex, for sex that could push her body beyond its natural boundaries.
Sex that could injure or kill the prostitute, sex that breaks down her mental defences, sex that can only be survived by going dead inside – this is what those punters demand from prostitutes.
So that is better than having an affair.
Only to the completely selfish man and women in the marriage or partnership that are prepared to use the prostitute as a tool in their fucked-up relationship.
If you prepare to go with a man who uses prostitutes – are you completely sure he is not doing sadist sex to them, are you sure he is not paying to rape without consequences, are you sure he gives a damn if the prostitute has been beaten up, is trafficked or is under-aged.
Can you truly say he is careful of all that. If not, how dare you claim no harm is done.
Prostitutes are not tools to be used so other women can feel safe or better about themselves.
We are full human who deserve safety, dignity and respect.
Clear the road if you can’t give us that.
This is very short, coz I am very ill today.
Just be bloody careful with your language.