Resisting Porn Culture

This is a speech I will giving at Compass, a left-wing think-tank.

RESISTING PORN CULTURE

I am speaking as a woman and girl who had little or no choice but to resist the porn culture.

As a child, I was shown a great deal of mainstream hard-core porn. I saw porn from a child’s viewpoint. I saw performers who appeared to be dead, I saw that they appeared to be in great pain, and I show the lack of hope. As a child, I saw the truth – that was forced out of me as an adult.

Seeing hard-core porn taught me a lesson no child, no woman, should know. It taught that sex was associated with pain and degradation. It taught me that during sex, it was best for the woman or girl to appear dead. It taught that men that consume porn don’t care if she is alive or dead – just as long as he is turned on, and that her holes and hands are available.

As an adult, porn made me accept the unacceptable. As I became embedded inside prostitution, I became the images I saw as a child. I became dead, I became obedient when in pain, I became just holes and hands – and worse of all I was smiling as it felt like a form of suicide.

My experiences are not unusual, they are the same as many women inside the sex trade or those who are lucky enough to exit. Porn is and was a huge poison in their lives.

For me resistance to porn has always been, is now and will be in the future, about the damage done to the women who are inside porn.

I believe that women inside porn have resisted the lies that porn is harm-free and empowering, from the first rape images carve inside caves, and used as entertainment. The voices of resistance by those women are more than censored, they are wiped from history. or consumers and producers of porn write and spread the legends of porn. They want a “history” of porn that claims all women inside porn are happy, in control and rich. The voices of women who speak of exploitation, violence, hate and being made into commodities are made non-existent.

I write and speak for the women who others decide are not real humans, who are named as plastic women. The women who others decide have had no real damage done to them, for it is decided porn is just play-acting.

I was that woman, and I can tell you, there was no play-acting. Just a deadness from the lack of hope, just a refusal to know the pain, and a toughness that keeps you breathing when others would have died.

The women inside porn are real. If it looks as if it would be painful to your body – then that is real pain. If you think the porn would degrade and humiliate you – that is real degradation and humiliation. Imagine that is your body inside mainstream porn. Imagine your throat choked by deep-throating. Imagine every hole in your body filled with pain. That is real pain.

It is not acting, it is not a game – there is no real consent.

Many of the women in porn, including me, were moved around different aspects of the sex trade. This is common practice inside porn, for many of these women are too disoriented, and too damaged to care what happens to their bodies. The porn producers view these women as disposable, so it is no matter what sexual tortures happened to them. If they cannot take the pain and degradation, they will be replaced.  

If you make the choice to consume porn, you could be watching a prostituted woman with no language to say no. She has lost the language of self-worth, lost the language that she is a full human – not an object to be used and thrown away.

If you make the choice to consume porn, you are more than likely watching rape – all too often you are viewing sexual torture.

My reason to resist porn culture is to give back to the women inside porn their full humanity and human rights.

The right to safety – where they are not raped, where they are not objects to be poked, ripped into, smashed down or killed.

The right to self-worth – to be able to live a full life without just being a role that acts happy whilst dead inside.

The right to speech – where these women can voice a loud no, where they have full permission to destroy all images of their rapes and sexual torturing – where they are not silenced by ridicule, hate and belittling.

Mostly, I resist in order that all women inside porn can and will have the simple pride and dignity to know and be fully human.

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8 responses to “Resisting Porn Culture

  1. It is only devastating if you allow it to be. For each person that is against the porn culture and or the sex trade, can be part of the big change by doing little things. You could cover up lads mags or porn magazines in shops, if there are petitions about conditions inside the sex trade you could sign, you could donate money to groups that are campaigning for abolition and real change for the prostituted. Do not allow it to paralyse you, for that does nothing to improve the lives of the prostituted.

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  2. Thank you for your honesty. You are a human being worthy of respect and dignity. And best of all, you are loved and valued by God. I hope He gives you comfort.

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  4. I add my thanks to you. I am sending this link to men I know who ‘use’ porn. I imagine they will delete it, but who knows maybe one of them will read it.

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  5. As someone who discovered her husband secretly viewing porn, I found myself hating the young women in porn especially when I read that these women were “empowering” themselves. I was wrong to believe the propaganda put out by the porn industry and I apologise. Thank you for being brave enough to speak out.

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