Doing this blog has made have a list of ways and things that make clear that abolition is the only way forward for exited women.
My list is hap-hazard and on occasions very random, but it is a list made from the endless excuses, so-called reasons and traps put in the way of any sex trade abolitionist.
It is a list from thinking with a clearness, from talking with many exited women, from reading simple feminist views to the road to abolition, and from all the body memories telling no-one should ever one moment of that hell.
It is a list that attacks the lies, the myths, and the gas-lighting of those who would keep, profit or consume the sex trade.
I will write what is at the top of my head, in no particular order. My list is the backbone of my politics, of my fight and of my memory.
1. There is No Such Thing as Feminist Porn
To believe porn can be made feminist-friendly or empowering to women, is to wilfully misunderstand what porn is for women.
I don’t care if you decide there is certain of porn you can and will enjoy to consume or produce – it is never feminist.
Porn is founded on women-hating, on making the women inside the porn into consumable objects, into making the “sex” about pain and degradation.
I do not care if women make and sell the porn, I do not care if it framed as dyke porn, I do not care if it is sold as women of all ages and sizes. I do not care or believe all the propaganda that porn producers say and used to make a profit by getting feminists to be yet another market.
It is not erotica, which can fun and often sensual. It is not sexual education.
Porn is about making women into objects to abuse, to harm, to degrade and to make sub-human. There is nothing feminist about that.
Say the truth that you do not care that the women inside porn get harm – as long as you get an orgasm.
Don’t say the rubbish that it is feminist just coz it has lesbian sex and is produced by women.
2. Indoors Prostitution Can Never Be Made Safe
This myth is building a world where the genocide of the prostituted class is made normal – for all violence and hate is placed behind closed doors, and so invisible to the public gaze.
Indoors prostitution has always been the most common form of prostitution – for it makes more profit, and allows punters more freedom to be as sadistic as they want for as long as their money.
Indoors prostitution is founded on allowing violence to be its norm – and it always dealt with in-house or with officials who paid off to not see any harm.
Violence in indoors prostitution is as old as when the first of the prostituted class were put into buildings.
Being indoors is highly convenient for sex trade profiteers and for punters – but it is never about the welfare of the prostituted class.
Indoors prostitution can make huge profits for it places the prostitutes in one space, it provide access to any form sadistic sex with the goods/the prostitute.
Indoors prostitution is perfect for sadist punters for he has the right to be alone with his “whore” for a long period without outside interference or any judgement of his violence and hate.
He becomes a hero in his own mind as he destroys or humiliate the evil whore.
How can so many refuse to see the dangers of indoors prostitution – when most sadism done to the prostituted is always behind firmly closed doors.
Even when the prostitute is from the street – if a punter wants the “fun” of torturing and/or murdering her, he will take inside a building for the privacy and space to harm her long-term.
The vast majority of murders of prostituted everywhere are behind a closed doors.
And my experience of indoors prostitution – is most punters are buying to have the right to rape, to beat up, to mentally abuse, and to turn the prostitute into his fuck-goods – without any consequences or interference.
3. Money Doesn’t Buy Safety
An ugly myth is that so-called high-class prostitution is somehow safe.
In what universe, where do men with large amounts of money not think they have entitlement or can treat others with disrespect.
The experience of many escorts, women in brothels, or the so-called girlfriend experience is they may get large amounts of cash – but that money usually has a terrible price.
Men buy the prostitute to be his sex object, to fulfil his porn fantasy without regard to her safety or mental welfare.
Most punters used the prostitute as a sexual slave, or she is an inanimate object where only her holes and hands are of any importance.
Punters do not want a human – they want porn said is real, that all whores can be fucked beyond pain, can be fucked without humiliation, whores can be fucked to death and that is half the fun.
That is just a normal punter-mindset – now give that punter access to loads of money, and say his sadism will last longer, that he will not have access to harm many of the prostituted class, that he cannot hide his violence and hate by buying silence.
You will see that in most other fields where rich men are corrupt – but with the sex trade, it suddenly become some kind of Richard Gere scenario if a rich man buys prostitutes.
Well, I live with the body memories, the sickness, the trauma of being brought by rich punters.
These punters can and did fulfil all their sick porn-dream into my mind and body. I do not know how I stayed alive from their “games” of sexual torturing.
I know rich punters know there will no consequences for their complete contempt of the prostituted.
These are the punters who go to be sex tourists and rip apart women and children’s lives just so they conquer through sex.
These are the punter who collect many “whores”, making sick list of the sexual violence he put into her – always making out he is some kind of sex god.
They are the punters that buy girlfriend experience so he can own her not for his porn-sex, but to dig into her mind and eat away at any privacy she has to have to survive.
Most rich punters have full permission to torture the prostitute, for his status and money is more important than her basic human rights and dignity.
Stop letting those rich bastards destroying so many of the prostituted class.
This is a very short list – tons more to include – but it makes angry, and then pain come.
So stop for now.