I need to write a post after my last post on the some of my reality of the punters.
I am listening to Otis Redding, music of my life, music I know more than by heart, it is the music that has always reach into my pain and grief, and reaches deep into the truth – the truth of those moments with punters, the truth of knowing you are sold as a disposable object – the truth that is an endless pain in my heart.
I am surrounded by a culture, a background noise and a world that refuses to look deep into the realities that so many exited women speak out – I am one of many and varied voices that so many choose to block out.
Why do you want and need prostitution to be harm-free? Why do you look for the fictional glamour so hard? Why do you feel the need to believe that unlike any other form of violence to women and children – that prostitution can be made safer if forced indoors?
Exited women are bemused at these questions – these questions plant huge pains inside our heart.
We cannot do anything but speak our truths, speak to the horrors that were our norms, we speak out hoping that our words can erode the terrible lies the sex trade lobby teaches outsiders to believe.
I cry in pain – cry as deer trapped inside a man-trap, cry to the mountains – every time I open a paper, every time there a debate on the radio or TV on prostitution, every time I am at a meeting – and I have to hear or read the solution must to have prostitution decimalised and put indoors.
In what universe?
I and many exited women – have said loud and clear for centuries that prostitution can never be made safe for the prostituted.
It is never safe as long as punters have permission to buy another human as goods to be fucked. She is made sub-human – so any rights to safety is made of no relevance.
In that environment – the location where the punter takes the prostitute is unimportant. When the prostitute is considered to be goods – it does not matter if it behind a pub, in a car, in a hotel, in a flat, in a sauna, inside a club, or any other location – the punter has full permission and expectations he can do any sadistic act he can imagine.
The punter can and will be sadistic for it is a non-human he is destroying. So beating up, raping, sexually torturing and even murdering a prostitute is a non-crime – more it is a non-event, as most punters can torture a prostitute then walk out as if nothing real had happened.
In many ways, for the punter nothing real has happened – for punter go to the prostitute filled with porn-fantasy – as they beat up, rape, torture and kill the prostitute it just a film inside their heads.
It means nothing to the average punter – for if one prostitute disappears or act as if she doesn’t like it, there are thousands more prostitutes to buy to fulfil their porn-dreams.
So tell me how any prostitute can ever be made safe with that mind-set.
In reality, the punters who make the decision to not be sadistic to the prostitute are rare – violence is the norm, violence is always the next punter.
In that reality, closing prostitution behind doors is all about hiding the violence and hate that is in all aspects of prostitution away from the outsider’s gaze, from any interference from outsiders.
Indoors prostitution is highly dangerous, for it give sex trade profiteers full permission to claim they will deal with any “trouble” in-house.
Trouble to most sex trade profiteers is not making enough money by selling women and girls as sexual goods.
Trouble for most profiteers is being labelled as pimps – so they re-brand themselves as businessmen – only their heart is as cold as any pimp.
Trouble for profiteers is not having a constant flow of prostitutes of all ages, all ethic grouping, who will any and all sex acts punters demand – no matter if they are trafficked or not.
Trouble for profiteers is never about the welfare of their goods – for it is all about supplying girls for as many punters as possible.
Indoors prostitution is all about silencing and giving up on hope for the prostituted class.
It is nothing to do with the prostituted being made safe.
The pain in my heart is screaming that anyone would want so much indoors prostitution is safe – so then they can pass onto more important issues than the genocide of the prostituted class as punters want they right to masturbate into living bodies.
I have written too much – my fury is hurting me too much.
I know that many who read are doing amazing work to forward abolition. I apologise for my pain and deep fury to you.
But not to those who think placing prostitution indoors is some kind of an answer. You need to look within yourself why you need to believe something so untrue.
Could it be you want prostitution to be put indoors so you can have access to prostitutes if you want? Could it be you want and need prostitution indoors – so then you walk on by and pretend it does not exist?