This is an Emergency

I believe that the destruction of the prostituted class is the most important human rights of our times, and to be frank, it is the most important issue of stripping of human rights of most periods in history.

It is made invisible because it mainly done to women and girls – and in most cultures, most periods of history and most countries, women and girls are not classed as fully human, and therefore have no access to human rights.

It is made invisible because all the violence, degradation and hate done to the prostituted is re-branded as entertainment, as work, as being high-class sex, as therapy. If it not named as prostitution or hard-core porn, there can no violence, degradation and hate.

It is made invisible as the prostituted are murdered, sadistically raped and mentally abused by replacing the goods if a woman or dies or cannot cope any more.

If you let yourself look at the sex trade with a clear eye – you would see that it is genocide, only made invisible by recruiting the all the more vulnerable girls and women.

But most refuse to see that simple truth, and make as many excuses as possible for the sex trade.

As you find and make excuses, the bodies of the prostituted class are piling up.

How many prostitutes or “actors” in porn have to be viciously raped – before you decide it is an emergency?

How much more hard-core porn need to mainstream the torturing of women and girls – before you decide it is an emergency?

How many more punters and pimps need to casually murdered the prostituted – before you decide it is an emergency?

How many more young neglected girls need to be groomed into the sex trade – before you decide it is an emergency?

How many more sex tourists will get off scot-free – before you decide it is an emergency?

How many more women and girls will brainwashed into the sex trade – before you decide it is an emergency?

And that is just the tip of a gigantic iceberg.

Exited women see and know this is a human rights emergency – we are doing everything in our power to educate and build a road to real freedom for all the prostituted class.

But we cannot do it alone – we are very strong, we have tons of courage, we do see with a clear eye – but we also have extreme trauma in our bodies and minds.

There are some brilliant allies who support and spread the word of abolition in practical ways and by educating. This post is not about those wonderful sisters and brothers.

No, this post is aimed at those who say they care, but turn away with many excuses.

I am tired of hearing, reading and being told the many excuses to put dealing with the sex trade on the back burner – I cannot whilst my prostituted sisters are being destroyed in almost every country in the world.

There is the constant excuse for inaction to spend more time deciding what a “real” prostitute is.

This could mean saying the only legitimate reason any female would be prostituted is poverty – pushing away that the sex trade loves degrading “posh” women and girls, that indoors prostitution recruits from women and girls with money – ignoring that any woman or girl from any class, including the upper-class, can be neglected and/or raped as a child, many them a prime target for sex trade profiteers.

This can mean deciding only certain nations, cultures or ethnicity will be prostituted – ignoring that the sex trade thrives on providing women and girls of all nations, cultures and ethnicity to the punters or users of porn.

This means deciding being in the sex trade is only harmful when the prostitute is under-aged – ignoring that most women inside the sex trade are open to rape, bashing up, mental abuse and murder no matter their age; ignoring that most women in porn or prostitution started under-aged and were ignored or made invisible.

This means deciding to re-brand being inside the sex trade as chosen work, it must be a form of female empowerment – ignoring that the sex trade has the power dynamics of slavery, in that the sex trade profiteer and the user has full power and control over the prostituted – who has no freedom of speech to say no or even to express dislike, who has no freedom to safety as she is made sub-human as sex goods, who no freedom to freedom of thought as the sex trade and users of the prostituted feed her brain with lies and the language of her oppressor.

As an exited woman, I so sick and tired of all these terrible excuses for over-riding the destruction of the prostituted class.

Could it be, that like punters and the sex trade – you really think and view the prostituted class as sub-human? If not, why do you constantly make excuses to make this human rights emergency invisible.

If you truly care about the prostituted class – the less you can do is to speak loud and clear that it is about human rights; it is about mental, physical and sexual torture; it does affects women and girls from all classes, all ethnicities, all cultures and in all countries.

If you truly care about prostituted class, say what is not.

It is not about sex – it is about having full power and control over a woman or girl who has no access to the language of no or rape.

It is not adult entertainment – there no entertainment in torture, there is no entertainment in giving punters permission to rape, there is no entertainment in knowing that the prostituted are murdered on a regular basic.

It is not work – it is slavery no matter how high-class it is made; it cannot be work as there no justice for rape, battering or the prostituted disappearing.

Stop pretending your language and excuses can make being inside the sex trade nice.

If your body and mind can do the norms of much of the sex trade – than maybe you can say it is ok.

Could your body and mind be in a room with a punter/punters, knowing he has full permission to do any physical and/or sexual violence to you. Know that it will isolated, with no imagined help from bodyguards if he decide to be violent. Know that you even thinking no, could put you in more danger.

Could your body and mind be on a mainstream porn shoot – where repeated pain and degradation is done over and over and over till the lighting is right, where there is no interest if you are ripped up, no interest in safe sex, no interest in what you said you would not do – as long there is a profit made from your pain and humiliation, that’s all that counts.

There is so much more I could say, and that I have said in the past – I want a future where I don’t to explain why it is a human rights issue, for that is just taken as a simple truth.

Do not leave it all to exited women – we need space to grieve, to re-build our lives, to get a safe community around us, to speak to each other words the world is not ready to hear.

Exited women will always fight for true justice for all the prostituted – please stop finding excuses, and join us.

I so sick of the torturing and deaths of my prostituted sisters everywhere.

9 responses to “This is an Emergency

  1. Thank you for your continued directness and courage as you voice your experiences with advocacy towards helping women trapped in sex trades. It helps me to read your blog.This post brings up one particular point which really encouraged me. “Do not leave it all to exited women – we need space to grieve, to re-build our lives, to get a safe community around us, to speak to each other words the world is not ready to hear.”
    I have been volunteering at a safe house for minors exiting prostitution, for the past year. Over and over I hear the cry from exited women that what is needed for recovery is strong survivor leadership. I see that need, I live the absence of that in our program and my heart aches for this. However, as it is – we do not have
    these women available to us. ( one reason is that women with felony records cannot work with minors in our state). I am not an exited woman, but I have a strong call on my life to help – maybe stand in the gap- until we have girls that recover, find their voice, come of age and use their recovery road to help others exit.
    In the mean time – your post is the only place I have seen acknowledgment for those of us ( non-survivors) that have answered the call to roll up our sleeves and help these precious girls reclaim their dignity and their childhood dreams. I am an artist and I provide weekly art classes – a safe place for girls to relax, express emotions, develop and nurture their creative talents and form healthy bonds to others in the community which they will need upon leaving the program. Thank you for the encouragement! It takes all of us working together to overcome bondage in any form – with this one being particularly heinous, destructive and evil.

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  2. Hearing you loud and clear! No excuse-making over here, with yours and Stella’s and Angel K’s powerful words (I’m a new reader of your three blogs), I see the sex trade clearly now too, and there’s no turning back despite how loud and shiny the lies and propaganda are. I try to educate others when they bring up ‘good johns’ and ‘happy hookers’ and I will do more when the opportunity presents itself. I take a cab home from work every night and often see prostituted women standing on the street corner, and don’t know what to do, I feel I have nothing to offer. Do you have any advice on what your supporters can do in every day life to help vs. legislature? Create safe houses? Other things..?

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  3. Reblogged this on gigoid and commented:
    Here is another strong message from rmott62, a message that cannot be overstated, or stated too often…. Free our sisters, free ourselves….

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  4. I cannot tell non-prostituted women who are already doing abolition work what more they can do. I suppose the most important thing is support the works of as many exited women as you can. To encourage that the abolition movement put exited women in a leadership role – to educate and give a vision for change.It is the small things that matter – like confronting the constant pro-sex trade propaganda on the media and in conversations. It is constantly saying it is torture, a form of slavery, and a human rights issue.

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  5. Thanks Rebecca, I agree with all you’ve said. There is much power in everyday conversation and a great opportunity for abolitionists to interject when mis-information is being discussed or joked about the sex trade. I look at activism as doing whatever we can as we are able, by using knowledge and resources we already have, and lots of creatitivy. There is no shortage of educating to be done. Exited women should definitely be the leaders of the Abolition Movement, they’re the experts! Melissa Farley and Catharine MacKinnon first opened my eyes about the reality of the sex trade, but it is voices like Dworkin’s, yours and other exited women’s words that had me truly *get* the full horror of it. We must learn from the REAL experts, those with the lived experience. If abolition supporters consistently do little things in their lives to chip away at the lies of sexual slavery, the Movement grows, and it is always better than doing nothing. Thanks again for your comment. Much peace to you.

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