Porn and Prostitution Cannot be Separated

This post is very important to me, and to my many exited sisters who live through the sex trade.

It must be known that there is no separation of porn and prostitution – they are deeply intertwined, they feed off each other and they feed each other.

It is the propaganda of the sex trade that creates the myth that porn is not prostitution, and prostitution is not porn. This myth is for those on the outside of the sex trade – as a woman embedded inside the sex trade, I saw and knew no difference between porn and prostitution.

I knew that all men that make the choice to consume porn and/or prostitution had made the choice to view the prostituted class as sub-humans.

These men had made the choice to view women in porn and prostitution as sub-humans who do not feel pain, or enjoy the pain because that is just part of their nature.

When men make the choice to watch porn – they are wanting to see pain, wanting to know the woman is being degraded, wanting to imagine a world where women have no right to the language of no.

When men make the choice to buy a prostitute – they are wanting to copy the pain they saw in porn and put it into a living body, they need her to be made into dirt, ans punters do all this knowing she has no access to the language of no.

If you make the choice to separate porn from prostitution – know you are playing the game of the profiteers and consumers of the sex trade.

It is a game to sex trade profiteers to have many boxes to fit their goods into.

There is the street prostitute, the escort, the stripper, the porn “star”, the girlfriend experience, the companion, the hired wife, the phone sex, and on and on an on – so many boxes with different labels, all done to confused and give the veneer that some inside the sex trade are treated with some dignity.

I know it would lovely to believe that the mythical Happy Hooker or Porn Star is doing well – she is not harmed (well not enough to really matter), she is making a fortune, that she can go in and out of the sex trade as her whim takes her.

That is a lovely myth to believe.

But believe that myth, and you are part of the destruction of the prostituted class – you are ignoring that this is an emergency, and turning away from the genocide of the prostituted class.

I was the mythical Happy Hooker. I acted content, smiled in all the right places, aggressively defended my lifestyle as my choice.

I survived hell by performing as the Happy Hooker.

I was in those aspects of prostitution that others say are safe and a good money earner.

I write this blog to get the world to wake up about the conditions in escorting and other forms of so-called safe prostitution. I am tired of knowing of multiple rapes, multiple beatings up, hearing of yet more suicides, yet more long-term internal injuries or STDs, so tired of yet more murders – all this done to prostitutes who thought indoors prostitution would be safe.

Do not imagine a world where the sex trade is ok if it is shut away from the public gaze – dream harder and deeper than that.

Remember with your hearts and minds that most men who make the choice to be highly sadistic to or murder a woman in the sex trade, will take her to a private space mainly indoors – so he has time and space to destroy her for as long as he wants.

Why do you need to imagine that the sex trade is safe if it is behind closed doors – is it because deep down you do not believe women and girls in porn and/or prostitution are human enough to know terror, pain and lack of hope?

I want you look closely at mainstream porn, and think with a clear mind and heart where do those women come from?

I live in a world where even allies will Other the women and girls inside porn.

I hear from allies not just supporters of the sex trade, expressions that reminds me all the time that women and girls in porn can never be fully human.

It is said there is the Porn World vs the Real World – what the hell does that mean? Is it that in the Porn World there is no real pain, no real degradation, no real sexual torturing – that those things only count if it happens to real women and girls outside the Porn World?

It is said the women in porn are just acting – do you not think the consumers of porn demand real pain, real degradation, and would feel cheated if the women are not made into real dirt?

It is said women in porn do not look real or are just plastic – do you not see that the sex trade forces the fake look, that the sex trade will do horrific and dangerous plastic surgery to keep that fake look?

It is said sex in porn is unrealistic – well yes, that is true – you be realistic with constant pain and fear of more torture, you be realistic when worn out and more and more takes are made, you be realistic as no part of your body is safe or keep away from terror.

I want to say that the intertwining of porn and prostitution is never subtle – I believe it is a conscious decision of those outside the sex trade to refuse to see the deep connections – for they have been there for centuries and in all cultures that make the choice to normalise the sex trade.

Porn has always feed off prostitution, and it had always dispose of those discarded by porn back into prostitution. It is an evil circle that destroys the essence of the prostituted class, and guaranteed they lose their right to a voice for they lose the memory that they are fully human.

Porn has always been about torturing women with sex – there is little new in the harms that is done the bodies of women and girls in porn, every form of mental, physical and sexual torture is norm of all porn that make a huge profit in all centuries and cultures that make porn their norm.

The major difference from the past is doing porn to the living bodies of women and girls was keep hidden in prostitution – inside brothels, in the bodies of courtesans/geishas, into the bodies of temple whores, in the bodies of street prostitutes – and now it more noticed for it in the bodies of women and girls outside the sex trade.

As the history of the sex trade was written by those who support the sex trade – it is easy to down-play the tortures of the prostituted in the past, or to imagine it was nicer than – the dead prostitute cannot speak for herself, so you can place whatever romantic myth you want onto her.

You do not see that temple whores were imprisoned and raped by men in their hundreds or thousands, you do not see that courtesans/geishas were full of sexual diseases and thrown away when rich men got bored with them, you imagine street prostitution in the past was grimy in Hollywood way, and the brothels of past come from listening Louis Armstrong or some romantic view of Paris.

Just know there no Golden Age of the sex trade – just a silencing of the prostituted class.

Back to how porn feed off prostitution and vice versa.

Porn is an environment of constant torture and degradation – to be able to survive that world it is important to be dead inside, which most long-term prostitutes are. So prostitutes are ideal for porn.

It is common for the sex trade to move the prostituted all aspects of the sex trade – this is done to disorient the woman or girl, and is a powerful ploy to make her into goods.

So it is no surprise that most mainstream porn is full of women who came from prostitution or sex clubs – they are damaged enough to fit into porn.

Also, it is vital to know that the vast majority of men that choose to buy a prostitute will consume porn. They use porn to teach them what to do with the prostitute.

Prostituted women and girls are made to be living porn, to be an object that may breathe but is dead as punters copy porn into them.

The more extreme the porn – the more it will go into the bodies of the prostituted class, and keep away from other women and girls.

This is because most punters do not believe it is a big deal to put porn into the prostituted – it is a non-event – but men who that to non-prostituted women and girls must be perverts.

It is decided that women and girls in the sex trade like pain, like degradation – hell they never complain, so where is the problem?

How do you complain, when your voice has been stolen for over 3000 years?

I will finish here – please do not separate porn from prostitution and vice versa.

7 responses to “Porn and Prostitution Cannot be Separated

  1. Excellent article and your voice is so needed! Thank you for your courage to come out in the open with the true story of what life in porn/prostitution is like. A whole new orientation to sex is needed before major change is likely to come. As long as sex is the vehicle that sells everything, the degradation of women through sex will continue to be the norm. As long as (mostly) men and boys are given the nod to seek fulfillment of their own sexual desires and there is no thought to the honor and dignity of women, unbridled desires turn into fantasies of torture, debasing and humiliation. I recently saw a video made by a woman who as a child was covered in gasoline and torched because her trick had a fantasy of seeing a little girl burn to death.

    The sickness has got to be addressed and stopped.

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  2. I also had to play the Happy Hooker. It’s a survival tactic. I couldn’t deal with anyone knowing how broken I was, or let them know they were breaking me. I was ‘lucky’ enough to work indoors. An escort instead of a whore. High class rather then street level. But the destruction of Self is the same. I ceased to be an autonomous person as soon as someone paid for my body. My time being prostituted taught me there is no difference in any part of the sex trade. Prostitution, phone sex, strip clubs… They all teach the same rupture of sex and love and intimacy, and turn it into violence and power and control and dehumanization. Thank you for your blog.

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  3. I applaud you! Thank you for saying all this. I’ve been explaining similar things to people around me who make jokes about prostitution (they are university scholars, no less), but always get the same old story back at me: ‘Women choose it for themselves’, ‘You can never end prostitution’, ‘It’s the oldest profession in the world’, ‘Without prostitution men would rape everything in sight, so be thankful’……I am so sick of hearing these ‘excuses’.

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