Let’s Talk About Porn

Dedicated to Julia Long – we both want the same thing from different roads.

 

Porn is talked about everywhere, porn is seen everywhere, porn is the background to our waking moments, porn enters ours nightmares claiming to our dreams.

But in this avalanche of porn there is a deadly silence of the multiple voices of the women and girls inside porn – there are no words to show their realities.

In this post, I speak to that silence.

I am not speaking for the “pain” of those who choose to consume porn.

I am not interested in finding the myth of porn that treats women and girls inside it with respect and dignity. I do not think there is a difference between lesbian and hetero porn – porn is violence to the females in it, full stop.

I am not bother by the millions of justifications for producing porn – bottom line, it made for profit and greed by exploitation of those in porn.

I am not writing because may or may not damage children and their views of sexuality – that is written everywhere.

I am not writing about women who partners consume porn and may treat them in a pornish way. I think you should leave or smash up the computer, but if the only reason you dislike porn is coz it spreading out to “real” women and girls, I find it hard to listen without great anger.

These are some of the many distractions that prevent the voices of the women and girls inside or exited from porn being heard.

It is like it have so decided that these women and girls must be so sub-human that they have no access to pain, no access to terror, do not know it could be torture, that it is decided they have no grief.

They are not given the right to be considered as “real” women and girls.

Yes, I hear you on the Left and many liberal feminists say that is not so. Well, let me play back the many uses of hate speech that is said to keep women and girls in their place – this is all from the Left and liberal feminists.

“It is just acting – not real pain or terror.”

No, it is not – consumers of porn want and demand real pain, real degradation, real terror in her eyes.

The pain is not a one-off is shot and cut many times until her body is beyond exhaustion, when her body is ripped up it is cleaned up or taken out of the shot, when she cries it becomes an “orgasm” or great film of her degradation.

“That is just the extreme end, most porn is not that violent, just sex on film.”

Porn is not erotica or sex education.

Porn is always about violence and utter degradation done mainly to women and girls. It is sadism done to show the male consumers that all women and girls are nothings but pieces of bodies to be fucked and thrown away.

Porn has no respect for any woman or girl, porn does not have any limits on how far sexual torturing can go on the women and girls.

Porn is a guide to how men can destroy females – and say it all just entertainment.

“But we could make utopian porn – say nice lesbian BDSM, nice story porn, nice porn for veggies/vegans etc etc.”

When I have stopped laughing with bitter tears, I try to say a serious answer to such nonsense.

If you do porn with living women and girls – it will never be nice. If you produce porn of any type there will be a power dynamic, there will be sexual violence, there will be a message that some people can made into dirt for others to get an orgasm.

Your utopia is a hell for the women and girls inside it.

I could go on and on – but in this post, I want to speak to the conditions of being inside porn.

I want to say there is no glamour, no route to stardom or riches, and it can easy to enter and almost impossible to exit.

Porn is poison for the consumer – but the consumer can turn it off.

For the women and girls in porn it is a poison that is dripped into them slow until the poison become their blood, and they cannot remember the time before that infection.

Most women and girls inside mainstream porn comes from backgrounds where they have taught their only purpose in life is to be a sex object that feel no emotion and has no past, and cannot know a future.

That is the porn industry wants women and girls that have lost access to their own humanity and be easy to manipulate.

This may be because they were sexually abused as a child, this may be because they have multiple addictions, this may be because they moved from sadistic prostitution into porn – what matters is that most women and girls inside mainstream porn are the living dead even before the first shot.

It must be know that the porn industry will groomed women and girls into sadistic sex.

They do this by pretending to the woman or girl that she can “choose” that certain sexual acts will not be done to her – but push her into those acts by paying over the odds, by threatening that no-one will hire her unless she pushes herself.

It is normal in mainstream porn for there to serious injuries especially internal ones. It is normal in mainstream porn for women and girls to have long-tern sexual diseases. It is normal to be rapes on a daily basis in mainstream porn. It is normal that any and all known tortures are done to women and girls in mainstream porn.

It is so normal that is re-framed as entertainment, made out it must be the choice of the women and girls to be in it.

So would you choose for yourself to be gang-raped for many hours.

So would you choose for yourself to anally raped as your head is flushed down a toilet.

So would you choose for yourself to have a dick or several dicks forced down your throat to you are sick or faint.

That is a tiny tip of a gigantic iceberg of the normal sadism of mainstream porn.

Would you do that, knowing it will stop and start for the right angle and lighting – pouring more and more pain, confusion and terror into you.

That is porn – would you do it?

11 responses to “Let’s Talk About Porn

  1. No female in her right mind would do it, and therein lies the white hot center of it, where you say —> “Most women and girls inside mainstream porn comes from backgrounds where they have taught their only purpose in life is to be a sex object that feel no emotion and has no past, and cannot know a future.” I think many, many of us have this background, and for those of us who haven’t fallen (been pushed?) into porn or prostitution, it’s only because of luck (which can run out at any time). My heart breaks for my sisters who have, and I stand with you in solidarity and huge respect as you so clearly and coherently shoot these Truth bullets that are impossible to ignore or dis-believe. Truth is like that, it demands and commands attention! xo

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  2. Thank you for this!

    This is a great reminder that we should object to porn b/c it harms the women victimized by it. Sure, it might also take a toll on women in relationships w/ men who watch it, but the biggest harm is to those who are in it.

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  5. Thank you Rebecca for your courage and your incredible voice. Thank you for the bravery it takes to keep speaking out about porn. You are breaking stereotypes and I bless you for that.

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