I have been seeing some support around trolls writing mental violence to many radical feminists, or even women who just speak their mind.
It is horrific that there is such silencing of women, but it is wonderful that it has got good women and a few men to give support and plan actions.
There is a sisterhood for many women attacked on the net – but is that sisterhood willing to reach out to exited women when they are under constant attack.
Sadly, it appears highly unlikely, or only there if it is easy or about signing petitions or clicking “like”.
There is little or no rallying round when violence and hate to exited women becomes all too real.
Where is the sisterhood when it comes to standing to pimp/punter- thinking?
Where is the sisterhood when exited women speaks out about physical attacks from the sex trade lobby?
And would the sisterhood honoured our deaths if the sex trade did make us disappear or commit suicide or just murder us in a casual way?
I know many of you reading this, will be saying to yourself “I would never abandoned exited women”.
But please tell what you do of practical help when exited women are persecuted by the sex trade lobby.
This is an SOS, for this is beyond an emergency.
This is a time for action not clicking like, not just reading our words, not just signing petitions.
It is a time to be uncomfortable and fully face the reality of being an exited woman.
I have very lucky, for I have escaped almost entirely connections with the punters and profiteers who used.
This luck gives me the privilege to see the constant attacks on my exited Sisters with a degree of detachment, and deep heartache.
I am lucky that the vast majority of attacks done to me on a “personal” level, are done by parts of the sex trade lobby that will not bother to track me down in person, just send generalised hate through the net.
I am lucky I do not feel under physical threat – but for the seven years that I have been open about being exited and an abolitionist, the mental violence is background noise.
I know this mental violence is not done by trolls who never seemed to leave their computer seats – it is highly organised by the sex trade lobby.
This means it will be relentless, seeing as it has endless funds and many willing people to do their dirty work.
This is not just about silencing exited women, it is much more sinister than that.
It is about annihilating all the prostituted, and making sure there is no record of our protest.
This has always been how the sex trade lobby has dealt with exited women who become abolitionists.
There is a long and brave history of exited women attempting to speak truth to power – it is more than likely as long as women have been enslaved in the sex trade.
But the history of prostitution is re-written by the sex trade lobby every generation. The voices of all those brave exited women is throw into the trash.
But each and every exited carries that history of rebellion forward, we refused to be silenced despite knowing the force of our enemy.
We know their weapons – we know they think nothing of torturing us back into submission, we know they make gas-lighting into an art form, we know they would rape back into being sub-human, and we know they would kill us without any conscious.
But we still stand tall – so where is our support or actions to protect us?
I know that many of my exited Sisters live the fear and background noise of pimps and punters knowing where they live, where their children or other loved one are – or are trying to track down information to stalk them.
This is no computer threat, through the knowledge is gained through the computer – this is simple physical threat, threat of real crime, threat that all about making us sub-human.
Sometimes, the threat is just keep on the mental level, by constant stalking or sending hate through the computer.
But the reality of physical attacks, or forcing us back into the sex trade, is always a reality.
Many amazing exited women have been so terrified and persecuted that they have stop writing, stop speaking out, left all social networks and go back to isolation.
These are women who voices are powerful and needed for abolition to go forward.
I want more anger at the war against exited women – for otherwise is can appear that we are not fully human, so we should stop moaning and just cope with it.