I want to thank all who have supported my recent SOS, but I do not want it to be a five-minute wonder.
I will write some personal views of what I think abolition means to exited folks, to me on an individual level and why it not easy or short-term.
It is vital to know who and what the sex trade lobby is and what they are not.
The sex trade lobby is not a bunch of individual trolls hiding behind their computers.
The sex trade is a highly organised, with almost endless funds, and recruit many punters and abused prostituted to write or make their protest.
The sex trade lobby is organised by those who profiteer from the dehumanising of all the prostituted – the sex trade lobby is pimp’s lobby, the sex trade lobby does only care about profit so is also the punter’s lobby.
So, these are the things that the sex trade is not –
It has no concern for the mental, physical or sexual welfare of the prostituted.
It not about empowering the prostituted.
It does nothing to improve the human rights of the prostituted.
It ignores all health and safety for the prostituted.
And it willfully makes all the prostituted class into sub-human.
So if you even have a small feeling that abolition is an answer – than stop believing the sex trade lobby and its propaganda.
Do not believe prostitution can be made safe – or at the minimum safe enough to ignore again.
Do not fall for the myths that indoors prostitution can be made safe, can be made empowering and is somehow prostitute-friendly.
Think clearer, and think of how the vast majority of male violence done to the non-prostituted is done indoors and by men that are known to the victim.
Why, would prostituted females be the only females who are safe alone with men indoors – it makes no sense, maybe because it is pure rubbish or simple lying by those who profiteer from indoors prostitution.
Be real – punters who buy women are likely to see her as goods, these men are highly likely to be violent whilst thinking it is a non-event.
These punters, whether or not they use street-based prostitution or the multiple forms of indoors prostitution, will usually be sadistic indoors.
Look at the common murders of the prostituted – the Ipswich murderer brought the prostituted women off the street, but killed in the privacy of his flat, the same as the murders in Bradford.
In Canada, the horrific murders of mainly indigenous prostituted women by a recent serial killer, was done in the privacy of his work-space.
And, speak and truly hear exited women who did mainly indoors prostitution, and know our knowledge that it is easy to make the prostituted just disappeared from brothels, disappeared from hotel rooms, disappeared from visit to the homes of punters, disappeared from sex clubs.
It is normal for the prostituted to just disappear from the “safety” of indoors prostitution – but this not important enough to be reported, not important to be crime or research statistics.
No, put prostitution behind closed doors and like magic it is made invisible.
I am finding it hard to focus on this post, mostly because when I think of supporting those of us who have exited the sex trade, I get a deep hole of despair and pessimism inside my soul.
I am terrified that as in the majority of the history of the prostituted fighting for freedom, we will be abandoned by allies and left to face the sex trade lobby alone.
This must not happened, for the sex trade lobby will refuse to see any humanity in the prostituted class, and hope by isolating us it can make our destruction invisible.
For the sex trade lobby is creating and has created genocide of the prostituted.
It is a clever genocide for it made invisible, by having a constant supply of desperate people who will replaced the prostituted who have been killed or just made to disappear.
It is a genocide that feeds off all the miseries done to human – it recruits through poverty, recruits in times of wars or natural disasters, recruit from child abuse, recruits from racism, recruits from women being made second-class citizens, recruits from allowing people to have no self-esteem, and on and on and on.
The sex trade recruits and then will form a highly profitable market.
It should be seen for its cynicism and that it desire to silence any protest by our deaths being non-news.
So when I try to write what I personally would like to do to support and fight for the prostituted – remember my heart is broken.
I want anger – not the passive reaction of liking the efforts of the exited to break that enforced silence.
We do not need or want your pity, your tears hiding apathy, your placing our lives into boxes that you can control.
Most of the exited want freedom, want justice, want soldiers who fight for that – not signing petitions, endless talk or re-telling of token stories.
It is not a time of negotiation – how do negotiate with the sex trade lobby who see no humanity in the prostituted?
It is a time to fight on every level.
I would love to the old anger back of burning down sex shop; of photographing men entering sex clubs/shops, men going to brothels; the boycotting of porn companies; the demonstrations in red-light district.
I would love all action led and guided by exited folks.
I would love that we listen to exited on a deeper level than just politics or short-term issues – no hear what our trauma means, hear our understanding of male violence, hear our ways of living through that violence.
I would love grief, pain and trauma to be in every discussion about why we must have abolition.
I would love there to be at least annual marches to commemorate the destruction of the prostituted class – not to place as after-thought or footnote to male violence.
I would love every city or town to have a permanent memorial to that lose.
Just simple ways of showing society sees the prostituted as fully human.
I want each and every reader of this blog to question men on their use of the prostituted.
I want men who say they are abolitionists to confront other men they know who consume the sex trade.
I want there to be an environment of shame place on the punters and consumers of the sex trade.
I want serious punishment for punters – for serial rape, for GBH/ABH, and for torture.
I want serious punishment of sex trade profiteers – for physical/mental/sexual violence, for forced imprisonment, for use of slaves, and so much more extreme crimes.
Why is seen as good enough to just fine punters who are mostly serial rapists, capable of physical/mental/sexual torture – could be another reminder that the prostituted are not human enough to deserve justice?
I know there is tons more to say – but do whatever you can to stop this genocide – don’t look away.