Scanners

A highly dangerous myth that the sex trade lobby promotes is that violent punters are easy to spot, and with time the prostituted can scan the men to find who is sadist or not.

The sex trade claims you as a prostitute can learn to spot the signs of violence, and that the prostituted will have the status and power to turn those men away.

This is toxic rubbish – this lie places all the prostituted in danger, this lie leads to deep self-hatred when the prostitute is unable to spot the violent punter.

But how do you spot a violent punter.

Do they have a cross tattooed on their foreheads?

Do they carry papers warning the prostituted of their hate and violent tendencies?

Or do they politely say to the prostitute that they may want to make her feel terror, may enjoy seeing how much pain she can take, or may want to take her to the brink of death?

Is that how the prostituted will know she is with a violent punter?

No, the sex trade lobby have the false theory that a prostitute can just scanned the punter in a few moments, and read his body behaviour and know he a good or bad punter.

For example, it is a claim a street-based prostitute will scan the punter – see if he has weapons, see how clean he is, see if he is drunk or on drugs, see if appears angry or disrespectful and all outward signs of violence.

But in reality, the vast majority of violent punters show no outward signs of violence. Most punters have the appearance of ordinary, and it only when they in a private space with the prostitute that his violence will come to the surface.

Even if a prostitute can spot violence in a punters, the vast majority of the prostituted have no power to turn away the punter.

The punter has brought sexual goods, the prostituted belong to him and he has the power to be as violent as he wants.

The prostitute has no human right to refuse or access to full consent.

It is a fantasy that most prostitutes can turn away punters without real or threats of violence.

Most of the prostituted live with the knowledge that any punter at any time and any place can be a murderer.

The prostituted live with violence at an unacceptable level as their day-to-day reality.

The prostituted get so used to being raped, that is just seen as expected – only noticed when the mind remembers to be fully human, or the shock of new pain or ways of raping dig into the body.

The prostituted live inside all male ways of torturing. Torture for many centuries has been rehearsed on the bodies of the prostituted, and re-framed as rough sex or adult entertainment.

The prostituted have learnt to live without any part of their body having privacy, being free from terror or pain – so in that environment how can the prostituted see violence in one man, when violence is her norm.

The sex trade lobby used the notion of spotting violent punters, as a way of judging and blaming the prostituted for not defending themselves.

Look at the individual prostituted woman and her responsibility to keep herself safe – then by magic, the ordinary violence of punters is made invisible, and also made invisible is that the whole sex trade is structured for sadist men.

It becomes that a prostitute is too weak for not defending herself, that she cannot handle the stress of “the job”.

It is never the fault of punters or sex trade profiteers.

It is a sick trick to keep the focus on the individual prostitute – for then it becomes almost impossible to make real change or to truly hear the prostituted.

It is always the responsibility of the punter if he makes the choice to be a sadist or not.

But then it always the responsibility of all men not to buy other humans for their sexual wants and greed.

No man has the right to buy a prostitute, no man can buy consent, no man can owned another human to masturbate into.

The act of making the choice to buying another human for your sexual goods is an act of violence in and of itself.

That is the bottom line – no man is entitled to buy the prostituted, whatever excuse they may invent.

If you are find excuses for the existence of punters and their sexual wants, their desire to have power over the oppressed – then imagine a woman who you hold deep to your heart as the prostitute he will buy.

Imagined your loved ones having endless penises forced down her throat – till breathing is a struggle, and holding back sick only comes with the repeated acts of violence.

Imagined your loved ones having no voice or expression to refuse any sexual or physical violence – she is brought goods, so human rights have no relevance.

Imagined your loved ones knowing all forms of torture, knowing the worse violence that goes into her body and mind, the more she will never be believed.

When you make excuses for punters – imagine they just lonely, too shy, handicapped, anti-social or just having a laugh – think of your loved ones under the punter’s hate and rage.

Maybe then you may see there can never a good enough for any form of prostitution.

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11 responses to “Scanners

  1. Dear Rebecca,
    Before posting them on my FB page, I took the liberty of fixing a few syntax problems in the opening lines of your great post:

    “A highly dangerous myth that the sex trade lobby promotes is that violent punters are easy to spot, and that with time the prostituted can scan the men to find who is sadist or not.
    The sex trade claims you as a prostitute learn to spot the signs of violence, and that the prostituted will have the status and power to turn those men away.
    This is toxic rubbish – this lie places all the prostituted in danger, this lie leads to deep self-hatred when the prostitute is unable to spot the violent punter.
    But how do you spot a violent punter.
    Do they have a cross tattooed on their foreheads?
    Do they carry papers warning the prostituted of their hate and violent tendencies?
    Or do they politely say to the prostitute that they may want to make her feel terror, may enjoy seeing how much pain she can take, or may want to take her to the brink of death?
    Is that how the prostituted will know she is with a violent punter?
    No, the sex trade lobby has the false theory that a prostitute can just scan the punter in a few moments, and read his body behaviour and know he is a good or bad punter. (…)”

    Hope this is OK with you.
    Cheerio!
    Martin

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  2. Another excellent post, thank you Rebecca.

    How many other “jobs” are there that women work where a key component is the expectation that you will encounter violent man, and should have the ability to determine who they are, if you wish to safeguard your health and life? Hmm, police officer, military … Difference is, police and military are licensed to carry firearms and use them if needed. Oh, wait another one! Boxing? But wait, neither of the fighters is expected to take a dick up the butt, so hmmm, no, still not the same …

    I wish the “sex work” lobby could tell me why, if it really is just about such a fun, intimate, life affirming “service”, many of the “clients” demands look more like rape, violence, assault. What’s sexy about having a dick shoved down your throat? What’s sexy about shoving your dick down someone’s throat?

    All in good fun, right?

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  3. Saddest thing I ever saw was a woman huddled in a doorway apparently being marketed by a pimp. She was dressed conservatively, hugging herself and weeping as she clearly didn’t want to be there. I imagine that’s the way most of her sisters feel on the inside, but they don’t show it on the outside. God bless you. You have suffered unbelievably Susan Fox http://www.christsfaithfulwitness.com

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  4. I saw the comment by the christian person and thought about all the times i was bullied with ‘prostitution isn’t about morality you silly religious nutter!’

    Now, I’m not a Christian nor did any of the pro-exploitation bullies know if I was a believer but they will use ANY tactic they can to discredit you and seeing any type of religious based objection will be attacked mercilessly.

    One must ask the question: Is there a moral argument here?

    Of course there is but it’s not the only argument, it’s THE argument. Human rights depend on some sort of morality in order to grant a human being as worthy of freedom under laws.

    I just know when exploiters see a religious comment they pick that one to launch an endless campaign against as if that somehow makes purchasing human beings to violate ok.

    It’s just something I thought I’d point out as one of their tactics to dismiss male violence against women.

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  5. House Mouse Queen, believe it or not, they treat me — a Catholic Woman — the same on Twitter and Facebook. “you silly religious nutter.” But moral law is based on natural law, which is inherent to the human race and has nothing to do with Christianity. Yet Christianity upholds Natural Law, and our U.S. Constitution was based on Natural Law as our nation’s founders were Christians and deists. Each man has the inalienable right to LIFE, LIBERTY and the Pursuit of Happiness! Modern man has lost the translation. Man in his completeness is male and female. It doesn’t refer to a single male. It’s always both, male and female of any race. The pursuit of happiness does not refer to subjugating innocent women, children and sometimes other men to your base desires. Living in freedom means respecting other people’s freedoms, and exerting control over your own passions. This is not religion, this is the way men (male and female) were made. I’m sorry you saw the depths of barbarism to which modern man has fallen. God bless you Susan Fox

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  6. Democrats balked at passing at passing Justice for Victims of Trafficking Act of 2015 because they wanted to make sure Planned Parenthood continues getting lots of money for abortions from pimps. My friend Christopher Ziegler wrote this piece that appeared today. He has found an undercover video of a Planned Parenthood official advising a pimp about how to get his children under 14 abortions when the inevitable happens without the pimp getting caught by the law. Here is the article http://www.nj.com/opinion/index.ssf/2015/04/opinion_balking_dems_seek_to_shield_a_special_inte.html

    Here us the piece where the manager of Planned Parenthood is colluding with a pimp to get his children abortions and contraception. She even advises him on his business. Planned Parenthood makes this sound like its some weird freak thing, but in fact a group called Life Dynamics went undercover with a woman who sounded like she was 13, and she called Planned Parenthood Abortion Clinics all over the United States pretending to be 13 pregnant by her boyfriend over 18, and they all advised her how to come in and not trigger a report on her boyfriend, who basically committed statutory rape.

    Listen to the video on this piece. It’s horrific. http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2011/02/planned_parenthood_employee_is.html

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  7. You may have some point about some Planned Parenthood places needing better training to help children. The second article you cited is clear, anyway, that these examples do not meet important standards: Planned Parenthood responded:
    “We were profoundly shocked when we viewed the videotape released [Tuesday] morning, which depicted an employee of one of our health centers behaving in a repugnant manner that is inconsistent with our standards of care and is completely unacceptable,” Phyllis Kinsler, executive director of Planned Parenthood of Central Jersey said in a statement released at 10:20 p.m.

    I think we need more money for Planned Parenthood specifically for training to help children and respond to human trafficking and rape concerns. That would help so much, I think.

    When there is economic justice, when rapes are prevented and adequately responded to, when babies and toddlers have lots and lots of enrichment and support for their moms/parents, when women have paid maternity leave in the U.S., then we can talk about abortion, OK? Until then, it is important to recognize that the worst hurts are the rape culture, exploitative capitalism, warmongering/belligerence and child abuse, to name a few greater priorities, I think. It is through more liberal, progressive policies that abortions are reduced best. A liberal view for prostitution is not liberal at all. More difficult is for a man to have the challenge to be more loving and more to care for himself and others. Some people don’t even know, I guess, that love is possible for a relationship, that power and coercion and betrayal are not ‘progressive’ or liberal.

    Still, even if I do not make the same opinions, I am glad we agree for help to the prostituted people.:-) Smile for you.

    But this post is why this blog is necessary education and I do hope this blog can be translated into many languages and published in many formats to maximize the help it gives. I pass these blog posts on more and more, as much as I can, because they say much for our education and to overcome terror and fear and speak for helping.

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  8. Except the girls under 14 they were discussing didn’t speak English. They were slaves my friend Matt. And the Planned parenthood lady was colluding with the pimp to keep them in slavery. This is actually a pattern. There were undercover phone calls done on abortion clinics across the US by Life Dynamics allegedly from a 13 year old girl with a very adult boyfriend, and in 91 percent of the clinics, some helpful Planned Parenthood staff member explained to the girl how to come in and get an abortion without triggering a report to authority about her situation. Planned parenthood was clearly encouraging statutory rape and incest.

    The two stories to me say: the supposedly most trustworthy people in authority in the US are colluding to promote prostitution and slavery, the Democrats and Planned Parenthood. This sickens me. Both are joined at the hip. The money flows both ways, and some helpless girl child kidnapped in a foreign country is being enslaved oppressed by the very institutions in America that should be helping her.

    The same pattern is happening in Scotland to an unbelievable degree. Children were taken from their homes put into orphanages where government pedophiles raped and abused them as children. This in documented in this book Jephthah’s Daughters: Innocent casualties in the war for family “equality.” Scotland has a terrible problem with pedophilia.

    Also read “Unplanned” by Abby Johnson. She was running Planned Parenthood’s largest abortion clinic in Texas when she saw an abortion on an ultrasound, and she saw the child struggle to escape the knife. She quit her job that week, and Planned Parenthood has done everything it can to discredit her, just as they did with the helpful employee in that video. It is a pattern. Just like the sex traffic industry tries to make the ex-prostitute who comes out against prostitution look bad and the porn industry discredits the porn star who come out against pornography.

    But I do agree with you that we need to recover good stable families who raise well loved and cared for children. I agree wholeheartedly with your poignant statement, “Some people don’t even know, I guess, that love is possible for a relationship, that power and coercion and betrayal are not ‘progressive’ or liberal.”

    I have linked this blog to my blog http://www.christsfaithfulwitness.com and I get 8k to 10K hits a month. Hopefully people will find Rebecca’s blog through mine. I don’t think enough Christians are suitably informed about this issue.

    God bless you. Susan Fox

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  9. Thank you for your work to increase knowledge, Christfaithfulwitness. Putting onus on the Democratic party and Planned parenthood is not the way to go, but I see, how will we learn of these problems if there are not enough efforts to uncover them? So I thank you. I am very unhappy to hear that you see the Democratic Party and Planned Parenthood as so much the worst of the problem, but I will still thank you for helping us all learn the facts. I think the Democrat policy agenda helps children and women the most compared to the other political parties. I hope you will agree with me at least sometimes. Thank you and I will look for your blog and subscribe:-) Now, I must take care not to be foolish and comment so much or it can takes away the important attention to the other comments. Perhaps we will have a chance to further another time. Blessings -Matt

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