A highly dangerous myth that the sex trade lobby promotes is that violent punters are easy to spot, and with time the prostituted can scan the men to find who is sadist or not.
The sex trade claims you as a prostitute can learn to spot the signs of violence, and that the prostituted will have the status and power to turn those men away.
This is toxic rubbish – this lie places all the prostituted in danger, this lie leads to deep self-hatred when the prostitute is unable to spot the violent punter.
But how do you spot a violent punter.
Do they have a cross tattooed on their foreheads?
Do they carry papers warning the prostituted of their hate and violent tendencies?
Or do they politely say to the prostitute that they may want to make her feel terror, may enjoy seeing how much pain she can take, or may want to take her to the brink of death?
Is that how the prostituted will know she is with a violent punter?
No, the sex trade lobby have the false theory that a prostitute can just scanned the punter in a few moments, and read his body behaviour and know he a good or bad punter.
For example, it is a claim a street-based prostitute will scan the punter – see if he has weapons, see how clean he is, see if he is drunk or on drugs, see if appears angry or disrespectful and all outward signs of violence.
But in reality, the vast majority of violent punters show no outward signs of violence. Most punters have the appearance of ordinary, and it only when they in a private space with the prostitute that his violence will come to the surface.
Even if a prostitute can spot violence in a punters, the vast majority of the prostituted have no power to turn away the punter.
The punter has brought sexual goods, the prostituted belong to him and he has the power to be as violent as he wants.
The prostitute has no human right to refuse or access to full consent.
It is a fantasy that most prostitutes can turn away punters without real or threats of violence.
Most of the prostituted live with the knowledge that any punter at any time and any place can be a murderer.
The prostituted live with violence at an unacceptable level as their day-to-day reality.
The prostituted get so used to being raped, that is just seen as expected – only noticed when the mind remembers to be fully human, or the shock of new pain or ways of raping dig into the body.
The prostituted live inside all male ways of torturing. Torture for many centuries has been rehearsed on the bodies of the prostituted, and re-framed as rough sex or adult entertainment.
The prostituted have learnt to live without any part of their body having privacy, being free from terror or pain – so in that environment how can the prostituted see violence in one man, when violence is her norm.
The sex trade lobby used the notion of spotting violent punters, as a way of judging and blaming the prostituted for not defending themselves.
Look at the individual prostituted woman and her responsibility to keep herself safe – then by magic, the ordinary violence of punters is made invisible, and also made invisible is that the whole sex trade is structured for sadist men.
It becomes that a prostitute is too weak for not defending herself, that she cannot handle the stress of “the job”.
It is never the fault of punters or sex trade profiteers.
It is a sick trick to keep the focus on the individual prostitute – for then it becomes almost impossible to make real change or to truly hear the prostituted.
It is always the responsibility of the punter if he makes the choice to be a sadist or not.
But then it always the responsibility of all men not to buy other humans for their sexual wants and greed.
No man has the right to buy a prostitute, no man can buy consent, no man can owned another human to masturbate into.
The act of making the choice to buying another human for your sexual goods is an act of violence in and of itself.
That is the bottom line – no man is entitled to buy the prostituted, whatever excuse they may invent.
If you are find excuses for the existence of punters and their sexual wants, their desire to have power over the oppressed – then imagine a woman who you hold deep to your heart as the prostitute he will buy.
Imagined your loved ones having endless penises forced down her throat – till breathing is a struggle, and holding back sick only comes with the repeated acts of violence.
Imagined your loved ones having no voice or expression to refuse any sexual or physical violence – she is brought goods, so human rights have no relevance.
Imagined your loved ones knowing all forms of torture, knowing the worse violence that goes into her body and mind, the more she will never be believed.
When you make excuses for punters – imagine they just lonely, too shy, handicapped, anti-social or just having a laugh – think of your loved ones under the punter’s hate and rage.
Maybe then you may see there can never a good enough for any form of prostitution.