I want to write to how the sex trade lobby make the structural male violence that is in all forms of prostitution invisible.
This is done by slight of hand, a skill that the sex trade profiteers have learnt and studied over several centuries, and is in nearly all cultures.
It is to hold in one hand the prostituted – but only to show the public the prostituted who can or must be making free choice, only to show the prostituted as adults, only to show to show what is named as the Happy Hooker,
But in the other hand, the hand hidden from the public – is held all the male violence and hate to the prostituted, all the physical/mental/tortures done to the prostituted by those males, all that makes the prostituted sub-human.
This is the trick of the sex trade lobby, to keep the focus firmly on the individual choices of the few contented prostituted, and to hide the majority of the prostituted.
But the sex trade lobby is never willing to look closely at what choice is in the world of prostitution.
The sex trade lobby never look with a clear eye and compassion at the full choices of the prostituted.
The sex trade lobby avoids speaking to the choices of the men who consume the prostituted.
And the sex trade lobby has no interest in exploring the choices of those who profiteer from prostitution.
I will speak to what choice is inside the sex trade, yes this will personal and somewhat bias – but it will cut through some of the many illusions that the sex trade lobby have created.
When we look at the choices of the vast majority of the prostituted in all cultures, all ages, all countries and in all historical periods – we see that the prostituted as a class have little or no access to full choice – in reality, the prostituted class were stripped of their humanity at least 3000 years age, and it has never been returned to them.
To be inside the prostituted class, whatever your class background, whatever your ethnicity, whatever cultural excuses are made for your existence – is to part of the longer methods of slavery man ever invented.
This sexual/physical/mental slavery is gloss over and re-named as adult entertainment, as female empowerment, as sex work.
Re-named this slavery is kept closed away from the public gaze, whilst scales of prostitution are invented to confuse and keep the public gaze seeing the male violence.
It is invented for the whole sorry history of prostitution that if you put the prostituted class behind closed doors and say loudly these particular prostituted are not just happy but empowered – then it become easy to prevent the public gaze looking at the conditions for all the prostituted.
This is not new – it may have begun with taking of prisoners during wars or territory gains, and forcing those women and girls to be in “temples” and sexually be used.
It may have begun when the cavemen work out goods could be exchanged to rape women and girls.
I do not how prostitution begun, how it first became an acceptable course of action – all I know men have exchange goods or money for their sexual wants and greed for as long as there has been written history, and it was not new then.
When the sex trade lobby speak to the choices of the prostituted, they are never speaking to the full prostitution, only small moments where the prostitute appears to have power or to be contented.
By only speaking to those small moments, the sex trade lobby shows its true face, by keeping the prostituted as sub-human and only to viewed through the eyes of the punters and trade profiteers.
For the invention of the Happy Hooker is always in the interests of the punters and sex trade profiteers, and never about the safety and humanity of the prostituted.
It is the slight of hand that makes the public gaze imagine that the sex trade lobby could ever see the prostituted as fully human with access to human rights and to consent.
No, the sex trade lobby with mind of pimps and punters pushing forward the concept of the Happy Hooker in order to cover up the institutionalised male violence that is the whole of the sex trade.
But we must never look at the full life of the prostituted, we must only see them in the eyes of the punter, see as nothing but sex goods with no past, no dreams, no hopes, no future – just made to used until they thrown away.
We must never look too closely at the pushes that create prostitution.
We must not see female poverty, we must not see previous sexual/physical/mental abuse, we must see coercion by lies and pretending to care, we must not see how recruitment into the sex trade increases during wars and disasters.
Only see the smile of the prostituted – ignored those dead eyes, avoid all outward sign of injuries, block out the mental breaking down of the prostituted, refused to know of the many disappearances and murders of the prostituted – then you by magic have invented the Happy Hooker.
But the Happy Hooker can only exist if we refuse to confront the choice of the punter and sex trade profiteer.
The punter makes many free choices and hold the power – but this is hidden by saying the punter is a victim, that he cannot control his urges, or that he is controlled by the prostituted.
One horrific lie is that buying sex is a human right – well maybe not a human right, but a male right.
This is said with a straight face – saying somehow men will go mad, become really violent to non-prostituted women and girls, or may just die if they cannot consume the prostituted at any time and in any place.
Sorry, punters will be fine if deny access to the prostituted – they might even discover empathy, discover compassion, discover what to be fully human means.
No, their penises will not turn green and fall off.
I know punters know how to masturbate – for they used the prostituted to masturbate into. So they just do by themselves and stop stealing the human rights of the prostituted.
The sex trade lobby will use the pity card to show who punters – the pity card that is never shown to the prostituted.
They will say the punters are lonely, too ugly to get a real relationship, use the disabled men against the prostituted, say it can use as sex education.
The sex trade lobby will make out that violent punters are rare and easy to spot.
This is a clear lie, and shows the utter betrayal of the prostituted class by the sex trade lobby.
They claimed without proof or solid evidence that violent punters are easy to weed out, if the prostituted are just given time and space to scan the punters.
This is untrue, and is a terrible lie which gives the prostituted a false sense of safety and security.
The vast majority of violent punters are able to appear normal and non-violent until the moment he decides to rape, torture or kill the prostitute.
I had many violent punters, and most shown no outside signs of their violence and hate.
Many violence punters act like gentlemen, act in public with what appears as respect.
But violence is quick, violence in indoors prostitution shut away from the public gaze – and violence can be kept hidden by sex trade profiteers.
Even if the male violence is seen, it made smaller or made the fault of the prostituted.
It is still believed that it is impossible to rape the prostituted – she is just not fulfilling her role as sexual goods.
Violence to the prostituted is named as entertainment, as games, as the risks of the job – never as a serious and pre-planned crime.
When we look at choices – we must say to all punters that they are the ones who have free choice, not the prostituted.
Say to all punters, that no human has the right to buy another human for your selfish sexual wants and greed.
Say to all punters, that their choice to buy the prostituted is to be part of an institution that tortures, brainwashes and murders the prostituted on a mass scale, on the scale of a genocide daily.
Say to all punters, if they wish to rejoined the human race, then choose never to buy another human ever again, and learn to listen to the prostituted and their pain.
Finally, the hardest for me, as an exited woman, to write to the choices of sex trade profiteers.
It is hard for me to see the sex trade profiteers without deep fear, without wanting to express hate.
But I refuse to go their level, I refuse to let the sex trade profiteers control me or any other exited folks ever again.
By trying to face the sex trade profiteers head-on, I and others exited.folks are getting back our true humanity – and discovering our inner power.
It is very hard to know the sex trade profiteer, when you have been their sexual goods, it is hard to know that someone could still be human and make the conscious choice to earn huge amounts of money by selling other humans as sexual goods.
To see how impersonal prostitution is – how the sex trade profiteers do not see the individual person in the prostitute, just how the sexual goods can be used, can be made off each prostitute, and how the prostituted goods will depose of.
To see and know this, when you were those sexual goods, is to know a despair that cannot be repaired until there is the true justice of the abolition of the whole of the sex trade.
Those who profiteer from the sex trade have no heart – all they care about is money and their image.
That is why most do not call themselves pimps or madams – instead the use the clean language of being managers, being sex workers, being entrepreneurs – so hoping to hide their cold hate and violence.
When we look at the sex work movement, we must know it is lead and speaks in the language of the sex trade profiteers.
To re-named prostitution as sex work is always in the interests of these profiteers, for it makes prostitution appear normal and harm-free.
It is very hard as exited woman to see the human in the sex trade profiteer.
All I have is the hope beyond hope that some pimps or madams grow a heart or find the way to empathy.
This will need that they see that they are criminals, or participate in the torturing, raping and murdering of the prostituted class on a mass scale.
They must discover they have their hands covered with the blood of the prostituted class.
They must face and hear the pain, the grief and the agony of those that they choose to make into sexual goods.
Only then can they even begin to return to the human race.
I do not see this happening – so instead I fight for abolition and for the punishment of sex trade profiteers.