Power Trip

I am writing to and about the punters who believe their power, status and money makes them invincible.

This blog post was pushed into my brain by the reports about Charlie Sheen and his latest shaming of the prostituted.

Charlie Sheen is just one of thousands if not millions, of rich entitled men who consume the prostituted in order to torture them

Yes, I name their actions as torture, their torturing makes these punters criminals pure and simple.

Only we make the choice to place rich men in all cultures above the law.

We choice to ignore or minimise rich men in the entertainment business who buy the prostituted in order to have sadistic sex.

We excuse the violence against prostituted women and girls used in sexual tourism by rich men from many backgrounds.

We shut our eyes to businessmen consuming the prostituted as a leisure activity.

We make trivial when sportsmen are violent to the prostituted.

We have made a culture where all rich men have the entitlement to used the prostituted as slaves.

Charlie Sheen was surrounded by that culture – a culture that refuses to say no to men like him.

So, we cannot be shocked at the sadist behaviour of these punters – instead of acting against their entitlement, we have made a society that has short term pangs of guilt – but in the long term, looks away.

Let me speak to my and other’s experience of being inside that entitlement.

I cannot know all, only what my body knows, only what exited women speak to ourselves, and only through brave prostituted who speak out in public.

I know enough about rich punters – to know those men have no fear of arrest, see no human in the prostituted, and have the mind-set of de Sade that the prostituted are his to kill or torture any time and in any place.

From personal experience, I know that the rich punters that consumed me never saw me, never wanted to know I was human – I was goods they used and tossed back into the sewer.

These were the punters that pay to torture me physically, mentally and sexually.

These were the punters who laugh about killing me, and knowing they could make my death into nothing.

These were the punters who offer travels as long as I did not care I must stay their sex slave, or care to be exchange as sexual goods to promote his career.

These were the punters who wore prostitutes like trophies – only to batter, rape and torture the prostitute when away from the public gaze.

Charlie Sheen was and is one of those punters – he is very typical.

We must stop making status and power making male violence invisible.

Please think what it is to prostituted with a rich punter who has no fear of punishment, no interest in the mental/physical welfare of you, and a punter who can buy his way out of all troubles.

Just imagine, being in a hotel room with that punter.

Would you feel empowered, in control – or would become a robot hoping not to be too badly hurt this time?

It is shut away in hotels rooms, in the properties of rich punters, on their boats and planes, and inside private clubs – sadism is all round us, but money makes it invisible.

I find it hard to write to and about these punters – for though they are my past – I still have the terror they put in me, still feel sick as my body knows their tortures they left as my legacy.

All I know is I have a deep hatred to rich entitled punters.

These are men who have become leaders, men who do family entertainment, men who make laws to control us, men who perform sports that I love, men who create music that relaxes me, men who are artists, men who work for human rights agencies and so many other powerful men.

These are punters that the prostituted are afraid to name, for they fear disbelief or a general shutting downs of their witnessing.

But we must speak out – say all ways that men get power, status and become the rich – is used as a weapon against the prostituted.

Charlie Sheen is just the tip of massive iceberg.

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13 responses to “Power Trip

  1. I often hear from anti-prostitution campaigners that hiring a sex worker is about power. In my experience that isn’t true, but I also struggle to see how it might be true from the perspective of the kind if people who need power. Rape is about power. Can you really get the same feeling by hiring someone to fake it?

    For me it was about acceptance. A skin to skin connection with someone who accepts you is the best feeling in the world. I would probably be dead now if I hadn’t paid for naked company when I was a young guy.

    As your experiences show, Rebecca, the job can be harmful for some people. But the women I saw took pride in making the world healthier. We should accept everyone’s experiences as genuine.

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  2. David, you weren’t being accepted. You were paying someone to pretend they accepted you. I’m sorry you are emotionally stunted and narcissistic that you can’t understand the difference, or that you apparently think human connection is something you can buy from a stranger.

    I guarantee those women you pretend “accepted” you, hated you.

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  3. David – it is rare that I allow punters through, coz this blog is mainly for exited women and our allies. But entitlement and ignorance is left here, as an example of how punters refuse to see the reality that the prostituted have live.
    You say that “the I saw took pride in making the world healthier”. This is an act in order to stay safe and give the image of being in control. Most prostituted women are dead inside, but have learnt for survival to fake emotions when with a punter.
    You will not be dead if you had not brought sex – any reasons you of had to want death is not about consuming the prostituted – more about deeper personal reasons. But, many prostituted women and girls have died because of the male violence and demand.
    It is not “the Job”, that is harmful – it is the violence done by punters and sex trade profiteers, as well as living in a society that condones that male violence.
    In the end punters are paying to rape – for they are paying to have prostitute who has no rights to say no, and to use her as sexual goods – therefore it is clearly a power trip for the punter.

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  4. Oi, David, you fell for an act. Prostituted women don’t “take pride” in having sex with cowardly, inadequate men. They do what they have to do as quickly as possible. And as for expecting sympathy because you’d be “dead” were it not for buying sex, that’s pathetic. No one died of lack of sex and if you really were in danger of that, tough. Your life is no more important than the lives of the women who are raped, mutilated and killed by punters and pimps every day. The world doesn’t owe you an orgasm, mate.

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  5. “I often hear from anti-prostitution campaigners that hiring a sex worker is about power. In my experience that isn’t true,”

    Your experience, as a punter/john who has all the power in this exchange (whether you are aware of that or not), is markedly different from the experience of someone who is being bought to please a stranger sexually. No wonder you don’t see it as being about power. From your perspective, you feel entitled to buy another person and then entitled to tell them what to do or start doing what YOU want to them, without them being able to say no, since you paid them not to say no.

    “but I also struggle to see how it might be true from the perspective of the kind if people who need power. Rape is about power. Can you really get the same feeling by hiring someone to fake it?”

    To fake what? If you are a john, you have paid someone to allow you to rape them. If you then actually put your penis in them, there is nothing fake about that. It’s as real as real gets, and any john who has done this knows this.

    What are you struggling to see? A john buys a prostituted woman/girl so he can force her to do what HE wants. How can you not see that’s about power? Are you daft?

    “For me it was about acceptance. A skin to skin connection with someone who accepts you is the best feeling in the world.”

    Did you ever stop and consider that the reason why it was so enjoyable to you is because the other person couldn’t say no? That makes you a rapist. Once paid, she couldn’t NOT accept you. She was forced to, whether she wanted to or not. Her wants never factored in, and by buying her, you ensured that. Punters/johns are not good people. Extremely selfish.

    “I would probably be dead now if I hadn’t paid for naked company when I was a young guy.”

    Dead because…? So you are implying that the only way you could achieve this “naked company” was through exploiting the desperation of others… And that if you had not done this exploiting, you would somehow be dead because you wouldn’t have gotten to exploit others in this way. My god, do you not see what an entitled mindset it takes to see the world this way? If you so casually accept that others must accept your body into their own, for “skin to skin” (as you call it), does the reverse apply as well? Would you be willing to provide this service to others, to anyone who wishes to insert his penis into you? No matter how smelly or unattractive (to you) that person was, would you be willing to accept them physically into your body, because if you don’t, they would die? Or they would claim they would die? Would you let someone die like that, without their skin (that you don’t want) against yours? Do you not see how absurd, selfish, and manipulative you sound?

    “As your experiences show, Rebecca, the job can be harmful for some people. But the women I saw took pride in making the world healthier. We should accept everyone’s experiences as genuine.”

    The women you saw had to perform, body and soul, in however a way they had to in order to not be hurt further than they already had been. It was a survival mechanism. You were observing desperate people doing what they could to survive. And you interpreted it in exactly the way they needed you to. You are no different to any other john/punter. Pathetically predictable. Do better. Stop being a punter. You can stop at any time. You have the power and control to. If you choose to use that power to exploit more people, you are deliberately choosing to be a rapist and all-around horrible human being. Just stop. And stop making excuses for shitty behavior.

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  6. Poor David. You talk about skin to skin contact as if you are an infant deserving of a mother. Make no mistake, you are using economic coercion to rape women and all women everywhere hate you for it. It is outrageous to suggest that your life depends on the right to rape. Ypu want human connection? Try accepting women as fully human and work on being a decent human yourself.

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  7. That’s the thing, you can fake orgasms or the power stuff that anti-prostitution people talk about a lot, but you can’t fake acceptance. Undoubtedly it required very special women to not be bothered by my weird naked body. Sex work is probably only suitable for a minority. But the ones who are suited to it provide a service that’s better than any therapy or drugs.

    Three replies, all insisting I can’t recognise acting. Your cause will fail if you can’t reconcile yourself to the idea that people are different, and each has a valid experience. This shouldn’t be a war between two sides. Acceptance is key.

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  8. Of course anyone can fake acceptance, that is extremely simple. Especially when you embedded in the violent world of prostitution, to be able fake being happy with a punter is a vital tool of survival.
    Your illusion that some prostituted women are happy is actually why I write this blog. Of course, a prostitute will appear happy, but you know nothing about her background or reasons she enter the sex trade, or how often she has been violently abused by punters. It is just your pathetic ego that imagine she is happy.

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  9. “each has a valid experience”

    Okay David, then why the hell are you here invalidating Rebecca’s and all survivors? And your claim that this isn’t about power– bullshit. You are clearly on a power trip, just as Rebecca has written.

    SMDH

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  10. Make the world healthier? Because you needed an outlet so as not to abuse “normal” women or take your sexual frustration out on somebody that matters. Unbelievable. That skin on skin connection was no connection between human beings with equal freedom and dignity. It was not connection at all, she was just a thing for you to use and throw away.

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  11. “Three replies, all insisting I can’t recognise acting. Your cause will fail if you can’t reconcile yourself to the idea that people are different, and each has a valid experience. This shouldn’t be a war between two sides. Acceptance is key.”

    You guys insist on wasting time talking to punters,really people?? can´t you see those men don´t care a s* about any woman on Earth? He will deny and deny..keeping denying….them will come up with those pathetic talk about “individual choice”,”different experiences”.WTF??? Punters need punishment,end of conversation.
    If you all wish to listen to them,nice: keep their bullshit to show the women that s are still colonized by the patriarchy and ask those women if we really got equality today,if men have the right to be loved by us like many of them think.There´s no other utility for a punter´s arguments.

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  12. David,
    “Sex work,” which is actually PAID RAPE is only suitable for a MINORITY? I don’t believe paid rape is suitable for ANY female…ever! You are stuck in a fantasy world, and are in huge denial of the reality of prostitution, as a punter. Are you blind?? Can’t you read and try to understand the pain that Rebecca and the rest of us SURVIVORS have been through? I guess it makes you feel better to think that your helping us out, or that we’re really enjoying this, or thinking nice thoughts about YOU, who has the POWER to buy our vaginas, use them, throw some money on the table, and say goodbye “baby?” Fuck that. The fact is that you do not CARE how we feel. Your just “hiring us to rape us,” and do not care about anything but getting your rocks off with a womam who is surely not in a situation to say NO. Believe me, NO female (I say female to include both women and girls) would choose to be RAPED all day by strange men. Being penetrated is a VERY personal thing for us, and do not think for one hot minute that we are okay getting fucked by random men, several times a day. I lied to stay ALIVE. I lied and soothed you beasts so you’d leave me alone asap. In America, you are called a “trick.” Why do you think that is?? I must thank you for writing on this blog, and showing your true colours to the world. And about your “weird naked body,” it wouldn’t matter if you looked like an Adonis, we’d still think of you as a scum of the earth, entitled, power hungry, pathetic, loser PUNTER, JOHN, or TRICK that we want to get away from as soon as possible. And fuck your “let’s go on a date,” “lets get married; I want to take you away from ALL OF THIS” nonsense. Save it. We hear this bullshit several times a day. If you REALLY want to make a difference in our lives as females, STOP SUPPORTING THE SEX INDUSTRY WITH YOUR MONEY!

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