To be exited is a long and often thankless role.
It is about finding who you are when just being human seems a mystery.
I write this blog to see and know what is human, what it is to with but beyond trauma.
To be exited with the knowledge of endless rapes, knowledge of how human can torture every part of an human mind and body, knowledge of what goes on in the sex trade is made nothing – so nothing can matter.
This is to drown on dry land.
How as an exited woman can I make sense of a world that refuses to allow the prostituted, exited or not, to be fully human?
How do I live in a world that constantly changes the rules of male violence to allow prostitution to be made normal?
I live in an environment that is Alice Through the Looking-Glass, where black is white, good is bad, and I know my head is going to explode.
In a world where the voices and demands of punters and sex trade profiteers are put on pedestal – and exited women are more than silenced, they are called mentally ill, made non-existed, and thrown away.
In a world where all male violence is a game, role-playing, harmless fun.
A world where being behind closed where many strange and entitled punters is safe.
A world where everything is the free choice of the prostituted and in many ways it is the punter who is oppressed.
This world does not exist, but constantly it is made to exist by the lies and brainwashing of the sex trade lobby.
What is so hard is how many, including some so-called allies, choose to believe their propaganda.
To believe the sex trade lobby – the authentic voices of sex trade profiteers and punters – is to think, know and say that the prostituted can never be made fully human.
Well, as an existed woman, I am bloody sick of being nice about you throwing away the prostituted.
What does being nice bring but pity, apathy and being patronised.
Instead, I want to question some common assumptions that are drowning me and my exited pals in this desert.
Why do you see limited choices for all oppressed groups except the prostituted?
Why do you think indoors prostitution is safer than street prostitution?
Why do you say the only push into prostitution that matters is poverty?
Why say it is S/M sex, boys being boys, or harmless fun when it called torture and rape in the world outside the sex trade?
Why do you say there no such thing as internal trafficking into prostitution?
How do you justify external sexual trafficking as economic migration?
How can you think that punters are a small minority when most long-term prostituted women have been consumed by hundreds of punters, most one time users?
How can prostitution ever be made safe – when the norm is serial rapes, all forms of mental/sexual/physical torture is common?
Do you really think this extreme violence is new – when it from all centuries and in most cultures?
Do you have serious and thoughtful answer to any of these points – or do you hide your head in the sand.
Answer me by seeing the prostituted as human – that is a good start.