More on the Lies of ECP

I have been reading the public writings of ECP, especially their so-called facts and myth-busting.

I will write to the most common views that ECP put across and say why they are untrue, and often very damaging to the prostituted class.

SEPARATION OF TRAFFICKING FROM PROSTITUION

ECP claim that trafficking is not connected to prostitution, and that to make that connection is endorse racist laws and policing.

They claim that trafficking is just the narrow description of being violently moved from country to country – this includes being in forced or bonded labour, abduction, kidnapping, false imprisonment, rape, GBH and extortion.

Note it excludes internal trafficking, the mental breaking down of the prostituted by mental abuse and constant threats, or breaking down by moving the prostituted woman or girl to many aspects of the sex trade.

Note that they also exclude child sexual exploitation as separate from being prostituted – even when there clear evidence that most of under-aged prostituted girls were in conditions of trafficking.

What else is it when a young teenage girl is persuaded or coerced by a “boyfriend” into having sex with strangers in exchange for money?

We must not have a narrow definition of trafficking – a definition that excludes the under-aged, exclude women and girls who are middle-class, exclude prostituted women who appear to be safe.

Most prostitution is the conditions of trafficking.

All the prostituted are stripped of the basic human rights to safety and the right to have access to full and free consent.

For to be prostituted, is to live under the constant threats and reality that punters will be violent at any time and in place – and no prostitute is given the right to a safe space whilst punters have the entitlement to view her as sub-human sexual goods.

In that environment, all the prostituted are in a reality of serial raping, reality of all forms of torturing, and  a reality of being made to disappear.

All that is the conditions of trafficking.

ECP ignores the violence of punters, so no wonder they have such a narrow definition of trafficking – no wonder they abandoned the prostituted to punters and their violence.

UNDER-AGED PROSTITUTION IS RARE

ECP claim that the majority of the prostituted enter when they are 19, and under-aged prostitution is rare.

This is not true and is a lie which is used to hide the hate and violence of punters,or at the minimum the fact that most punters consume the young not caring about her mental and physical welfare.

The dismissal of under-aged prostitution proves that ECP fights for the interests of sex trade profiteers and punters, and not the welfare of the prostituted.

Punters want the sex trade to provide them with fresh young prostituted girls, for it fits into their self-image as conquerors and virgin-breakers.

The sex trade is all about breaking down vulnerable girls to mould them into the Whore who has no rights left.

ECP make under-aged prostitution invisible coz they refuse to say that prostitution is a human rights issues.

Instead by saying it only adult women who can be prostituted – in their fantasy, these women would be in control of how punters behave, and would have freely chosen to be prostituted – it is just a simple labour issue.

Yet again ECP betrays the prostituted in order to protect punters and sex trade profiteeers.

TRAUMA IS A MYTH

ECP appears to believe that prostituted women and girls do not get trauma from being brought and sold as sexual goods.

Wow, it seems they refuse to the multiple voices and evidence of exited women.

It is know that to be raped once is usually traumatic – so to be living with years of being serially raped somehow has no effect.

It is known living with a partner who batter you is traumatic – but living in an environment where punters have free rein to torture and bring you constantly to near-death, that is not traumatic.

That is the logic of ECP.

ECP refuse to speak to dissociation that  is the normal reaction of the prostituted to living inside rape after rape after rape after rape.

Most punters do not not just rape, they sexually torture the prostituted.

To survive, it is vital to close down, to be a robot and to be the living dead.

To get through prostitution with some sanity, dissociation is a vital tool, but if  the prostitute is lucky enough to exit the unfreezing of that dissociation leads to extreme complex trauma.

Most exited women take months if not years to get back true emotions, get back the route back to being a full human – it only then that the impact of surviving torture hits them.

That is when trauma hits us hard.

Prostitution as an institution is creating this trauma – for its purpose is make the prostituted so sub-human that all sexual/mental/physical can be done to them with no consequences.

For ECP to ignore trauma is sick and yet again a deep betrayal of the prostituted.

PUNTERS ARE NOT VIOLENT

That would appear the purpose of ECP to make all suggestion that punters are violent and that punters should centred when discussing the harms done to the prostituted.

ECP will speak to any and everything but any chat that punters choose to rape, choose to make the prostituted sub-humans, choose to torture, choose to mentally abuse – and choose to throw away the prostituted.

ECP speaks to the violence of the police, speaks to the violence of laws that may criminalise the consumers of the prostitued, speak to how stigma may increase violence to the prostituted.

But they say nothing of how punters pay to rape, pay to torture, and pay to make the prostituted into his living porn-doll.

Instead ECP speak as if punters can be respectful to the prostituted, and would report any violence if he was not made a criminal.

Well to think you entitled to buy another human for your sexual greed – well, that means you are a criminal.

You are a rapist, for money is not consent.

All punters can choose never to consume the prostituted again.

Why do we make excuses for punters – when we say it is wrong to rape, wrong to batter, wrong to mentally abuse, wrong to murder – but it somehow ok when it is framed prostitution.

POVERTY IS THE ONLY CAUSE OF PROSTITUTION

ECP appears to framed the only bad push into prostitution is poverty, and seemed to think it just under the Tories that this negative push can be discuss.

This dismisses so many of the prostituted who may of entered the sex trade for multiple and varied vulnerabilities and pushes.

This dismisses that sex trade thrives no matter what the economic conditions, or the political system there is.

The sex trade adapts to all conditions, for it purpose is to make huge profits by providing markets for all men who choose to be punters or consumers of the sex trade.

To provide that markets, sex trade profiteers look for vulnerable girls from all backgrounds, all cultures, all classes – the sex trade can break any female who has previous vulnerabilities to become sub-human sexual goods.

The pushes into the sex trade can be previous mental/physical/sexual abuse, lack of access having trust and love from others, racism, poverty, natural/man-made disasters including wars, famine or recession, and endless other pushes.

Sex trade profiteers will make a market for any porn fantasy that punters have, so when you think you can define who will be prostituted, think of the opposite and both will exist.

 

I will stop here, hope this is helpful.

 

 

 

ECP Don’t Do Debates

This post is about how ECP do not debate when speaking to the Nordic Model,  but manipulate and spread propaganda.

I will focus mainly how they use these so-call debates to mentally abuse and undermine exited women – especially when we dare be on the same panel as them.

I write this as a warning, as clues to how to deal with their lies, propaganda and nonsense.

I write this to say we should carefully about debating with a group who is allowing the genocide of the prostituted to be invisible, especially when they so few and completely misrepresent what it is to be prostituted.

I will to their repeated arguments and point of view – warning I find it very not to be cynical, or turn to dark humour for most of what they speak to is such an upside-down image of prostitution.

I will try to tone down my fury, my sense of sickness, and my wanting to laugh from a place of deep pain and grief at their points.

But my exited Self reacts with shock, anger and despair that ECP are even seen as legitimate enough to all over the media, at most Leftist discussion about prostitution and the representatives of the prostituted.

It is like the National Union of Miners was run by Margaret Thatcher – for ECP is the voice of punters and sex trade profiteers – is the voice that constantly betrayed the prostituted and ignores all male violence done to prostituted.

ECP constantly say the only push into prostitution that matters is poverty.

They use this to paint a picture that it just the fault of current government and current recession.

They refuse to discuss internal trafficking, any form of trafficking not connected to poverty, previous sexual/mental/physical abuse, peer pressure, or anything outside a narrow economic push into the sex trade.

They do not seem to think that internal trafficking can be connected to prostitution, instead they say it child sexual exploitation and not never should call prostitution.

Even when the girls are recruited into prostitution, paid for sex by many strangers. Even when they are clearly being pimped out – ECP refuse to have it called prostitution.

ECP may included an extremely narrow definition of trafficking as prostitution.

Usually this from a poor country to a rich country, and it done with extreme mental, sexual and physical violence to control the women.

This image of trafficking is so narrow, and excludes the vast of women and girls trafficked into the sex trade.

But, ECP do not speak to even narrow version of trafficking from a place of compassion or empathy, but just as a tool to attack any changes in the status quo of the sex trade.

ECP claim that trafficking is rare, and is used as an excuse to force immigrants out and is racist thinking.

Remember ECP love to guilt-trip the audience, so this argument often works, without facts to back it up.

No Lefist, no liberal wants to label as racist, so even a hint that they might makes the audience stop listening with a clear critical ear.

Who needs facts or evidence, when you can guilt-trip?

Another classic of ECP is to totally ignore any suggestion that cause and root of the harms done to the prostituted is male violence, especially punter violence.

ECP make out that male violence is rare, and if prostituted women were more in control, they would spot the bad punters and could refuse them.

Wow, what a fantasy, or more likely the genuine voice of punters and sex trade profiteers.

Punters want it to believed that they are respectful to the prostituted, and would never abuse her.

Punters lie like they breathe.

Most punters know they are paying to be violent as they want with no consequences.

Punters know they are rapists, know they ignore that the prostituted cannot give full consent – they just don’t care.

ECP say punters would report trafficking, report under-aged prostitution, report violence if they were not in fear of being seen as criminals.

Ha! That is a sick fantasy.

Punters don’t care if the prostituted are covered with injuries, if the prostituted are clearly disassociated, if the prostituted have many track lines from drug addiction, have a pimp controlling her, is obviously under- age.

No most punters are thrilled at fucking a prostituted who is clearly damage, without access to safety, with lack of knowledge of the local language, or young so he pretend he can break her.

Punters want to feel that power, want to break down the prostituted, want to do the prostituted what he would do to “real” women – for all punters make the prostituted sub-human and into his porn-doll.

That is what ECP refuse to be seen and known.

Personally, I hate ECP and everything it stand for.

It takes a lot of experience of their mental abuse, their spreading of sex trade propaganda and their making exited women into sub-humans – for me to reach this place of hate.

ECP are not innocent as they allow this destruction of the prostituted, they are a major part of the problem.

As long as ECP speaks the words of punters and sex profiteers, they are allowing the genocide of the prostituted to continue.

That is unforgivable.

Left Unity Talk

Thanks for inviting me to speak to you. I am speaking as an exited woman who fight for abolition.

I only did indoors prostitution – such as inside clubs, escorting and girlfriend experience. All this is portrayed by the sex work as safe – or at least safe enough to be in the public gaze.

I was prostituted between the ages of 14 to 27. I speak to my truths, and my many connections on international level with exited women.

To understand what it is to be prostituted, we must look at the concept of choice with a clear eye. The sex work lobby want only speak to prostituted women when speaking to choice.

They purposely make invisible the choice of punters and sex trade profiteers, and therefore make all male violence to the prostituted invisible.

The prostituted are stripped of all access to free and full choice.

The average age that a female enters the sex trade – usually after or during sexual, mental and or physical abuse.

Many women who enter the sex trade do so out poverty or lack of access to education or employment.

Most women inside prostitution have multiple vulnerabilities and pushes into the sex trade – none of which can be framed as free choices.

On the other hand, punters can and do freely choose whether or not to buy another human for his sexual greed and entitlement. Punters have the free choice to be as violence as his porn dreams make him.

For in the punter’s mind, he is not buying a full human being with rights to safety and dignity – he is buying sexual goods to own, to control and to throw away.

Punters are paying to rape, punters are paying to torture, and punters can pay to make the prostituted disappear.

This is why no aspect of prostitution can made safe, and why exited fight so passionately for abolition not harm reduction, not decriminalisation or other ways of keeping the status quo for sex trade profiteers.

All punters have the knowledge that they owned and controlled the prostituted, and in that environment he can as violence as he wishes with no consequence.

The sex trade as an institution is highly skilled at making all damages done to the prostituted vanish.

It is the norm in the sex trade, for the prostituted women and girls to just disappear. Many are murdered, and their bodies thrown away.

Many are forced into other aspects of the sex trade, often porn – usually more threatening and violent as a punishment or a way to break her down.

I, and all the exited women I know, live inside extreme violence. We are know of prostituted women and girls or were made to disappear. Every time we speak out, we hold these Sisters in our hearts, as we promise them to stop other females going through that hell.

This is an invisible genocide. It is made invisible for as many prostituted women and girls disappear, they are replace with yet more vulnerable females.

This is a human rights emergency, not a labour issue.

What saddened many exited women, is how too many of the Left have fallen for the propaganda of the sex work lobby.

Prostitution is capitalism in its rawest form. The purpose of prostitution is to make a huge profit by making mainly women and girls into sub-human sexual goods.

These goods are sold to punters who have the entitlement to own, control and damage them as much as they can afford. There no interest in the physical and mental welfare of the prostituted.

How can say you against capitalism and back the sex work lobby?

That is a deep betrayal of the prostituted.

Exited women see the Nordic Model as the first step to getting full human rights and dignity for all the prostituted.

We must hold punters and sex trade profiteers accountable for the destruction of the prostituted..

We must decriminalise the prostituted, whilst setting up long-term holistic exiting programmes for the prostituted who want to leave.

It would be good if we fined punters at least 10% of their wages or benefits. If he can afford to pay for sex, he can afford that fine. Punters who repeated offenders or use extreme violence should be imprisoned, as should all sex trade profiteers.

It would be good if the fines were used to fund all exiting programmes, and used for reparations for all the mental and physical damages done to the prostituted.

All exiting programmes should informed and hopefully run by exited women.

They should provide more than just economic help and advice, more than harm reduction advice, more than just access to safe housing, jobs or access to education. All these are vital, but without long specialist therapy for complex trauma, we are just patching the prostituted not giving them back their full humanity.

We must fight to build a society and culture that cannot imagine why we thought prostitution was ever a good idea.

Listen to exited women, and think more radically.

 

Friday on my Mind

I have been away from this blog coz my trauma has been extremely bad.

My mind and body is dragging out years of torture, years of isolation, years of punters thinking I was nothing.

I am still sick and pretty exhausted in mind, body and spirit. But I want to get back on the bike.

Today is Good Friday, though I am a strong atheist, this day has many connections to me.

I have respect for a belief that can face suffering, grief, confusion and lack of justice in the eye.

That is all in the tradition of Good Friday.

To face those aspects of humans, and what human are capable of doing, what humans are able to survive and build a route to hope and full justice.

I see no god or goddesses in this view, only human corrupting routes to freedom and joy, and other humans fighting for liberation from violence and hate.

So Good Friday is deeply meaningful to my prostituted Self.

The Self that was abandoned.

The Self that thought torture was endless.

The Self that was made into a porn doll.

The Self that scream – Why have been forsaken, god, why do you abandon me.

Also Friday is meaningful to me, for it was the night when I a teenage prostitute that I was my busiest.

Friday nights for too much of my live were times I closed my consciousness.

Those were the nights that punters, ten, twenty or thirty years older would screw me to near death.

Those were the nights that punters would lined up to fuck away my memory, my ability to know pain, my right to know the first time, my route back to being allowed to be young.

Those were the nights gang-rapes became my norm.

Those were the nights I became pregnant with no right to grieve the abortion or to think of any future as a mother.

On this Good Friday, I see my teenage Self laying in blood, sperm and sweat – I see he and hold into my future, saying I will never forsake you.

Then there were the Fridays of my twenties, the Fridays leading to weekends of imprisonment with punters wanting Girlfriend Experience or wanting an escort that they refuse to name as a prostitute.

Those Fridays were my education that Hell is man-made, and nothing to do with religion or the supernatural.

In my twenties, I was taught inside my the multiple ways punters can torture the prostituted.

This I blocked out, this I refuse to allow to be true.

This now returns in my sickness, returns in my sleep pattern, returns in my refusal to know I have a body or a sexuality.

Now, finally I see and feel the edges of what that torture meant to me.

To understand what it is to survive years of sexual, physical and mental torture – you must know it destroys parts of the brain especially the memory and access to emotions.

I find it hard to emote my past, I have a slice of ice in my heart when I see, when I write or when I speak to that past.

But the worse aftermath of years of torture is that I have fragmented memory.

I have most of the years between 6 to 27 that I cannot see except in bits and pieces.

This makes me doubt myself, makes me feel everything I reach into some of my truths it just slips away.

Now, I slowly learnt to trust my body, even as my mind refuses to know – my memories are in my sickness, my memories are in my refusal to know my own body, my memories are in the pain that shadow me.

Now, I see and speak the moments that crash though showing that it was prostitution, that it was torture.

I see a punter who refuse to allow me any sleep even as he keep me in his flat for a week.

I did sleep when he was out or not looking, but if he caught me not making the centre of the world, he anally raped me back.

I see a so-called male friend finding out that I was a whore, and raping me for six hours.

Hell, calling it rape is kind. He tortured me.

He destroyed all holes in my body, even my ears. He spread sperm all over my skin.

He nearly killed me, well I stopped breathing enough for him to to give me the kiss of life only to carry on torturing me.

I see endless punters fucking me in pub toilets, in graveyards, in subways, and behind  bins.

I see hotel rooms, flats and rooms above clubs where punters have time and space to torture me as much their porn brains can.

I see cameras filming my moments of Hell.

On this Good Friday, I hold my adult prostituted Self and tell over and over – I love you and will never forsake you.

This my message for Good Friday.

 

 

Questionnaire

I thought I would ask my regular readers some questions. Please answer if you have the space and time. These questions are from many angles, but will remind me why I do this blog.

1. How do you find the style that I write in? Is it too simple or too complex, or somewhere in the middle?

2. Do you find I am too repetitive? Or do you think my repeating thoughts, ideas and phrases need to be done? Please explain more.

3. Would you be interested in me writing deeper about trauma and exiting prostitution?

4. Would you be interested in my exploring fragmented memory and its deep connections with prostitution?

5. Do you read other exited women’s writings, especially from other cultures and times in history? Or is most of your information on being prostituted from outsiders or allies?

6. Do you think that exited women can and should have separate voices? Do say as much as you can.

7. Would you do more to support exited women when they are attacked by the sex work lobby? Such as noticing and responding to attacks on Twitter, on their public writings or when they give speeches etc.

8. Do you question or respond to the media stereotyping how we should view the prostituted, especially when the constant refrain is that is just work, and the image is  of the Happy Hooker?

9. Do you ignore jokes about the prostituted, do ever confront men who speak lightly about prostitution?

10. Do you think that countries who have parts of the Nordic Approach are fully enforcing the radical changes or not? Please explain.

11. Would you be able to think of how exiting programmes can improve and made permanent?

12. Do you think that exited women should have more of a leadership role in how laws and exiting programmes are made and carried through? Do say more.

Please write as much as you can, and if possible also send money to my PayPal account, I can give you my email if you need it.

Dancing is All That is Left

When I embedded in prostitution, I refused emotions.

I refused to know grief, I refused celebrations, I refused crying from pain, I refused loneliness, I refused needing love.

But I still could dance.

Not the manic dance of the lost, but the ordered dance of wanting to be invisible.

I never lost my love of music, never lost desire to be be free.

But, even in the dance, the sex trade and punters found many ways to trap me.

Punters would laugh at my passion for music, making me small enough for to be back in their control.

The sex trade set up my love of dancing to get punters in.

I was made to dance with old men who could take me away and do whatever their money could buy.

I was slowly growing to hate music, hate dancing, and hate myself for imaging I could be that free.

I could have nothing private, only the brief moments of cutting and dreaming of death.

I write to this place, not for pity, not to shock – I write to say why we must destroy the sex trade, not replace it with yet more ways to destroy the prostituted.

Let me speak to the revolution that I believe in, the revolution which could mean I could dance in real freedom.

I see the Nordic Approach as a wonderful beginning, but not an end.

To start, we need to take the Nordic Approach more seriously, and fully implement what it appears to be saying.

We must take seriously the criminisaling of punters.

This means a fine of the minimum of 10% of their income, imprisonment for repeated consuming of the prostituted, and long sentence for violence to the prostituted.

We must take seriously that is a grievous crime to profiteer from the sex trade.

Sex trade profiteers must go to prison for a long time, must have all their criminal earnings stripped from them.

Finally, we must make exiting a priority.

This means not the harm reduction model, or short-term non- focused counselling – but a long-long holistic approachs.

This involves multi-disapline approach – with safe housing, access to education and jobs, childcare, long-term specialist counselling, and whatever individual needs of the exited women.

Alongside that we need to educate why prostitution need to go, and do training with police, medical services, social workers, teachers and parents on how we can build up changes to make that happen.

That is a start of a revolution that would make me remember how to dance.

Some Women Just Can’t Take It

One of the statement that the sex trade lobby repeats over and over and over and over again about exited women –

They were not suitable for sex work.

They did not have the mental strength to do the work.

They were men-haters so should be doing sex work in the first place.

They should of done some research before entering sex work.

 

Where do I start with such foolishness or such deep mental cruelty.

The sex work lobby appear to believe that there is some kind of training for prostitution.

That all that is needed is a strong will and awareness, and then the prostituted woman will be safe and happy.

The sex work lobby makes invisible that the cause of all harms done to the prostituted is by punters and sex trade profiteers.

Instead all the blame and guilt is placed on the prostituted for being “weak”.

Classic victim blaming is easier than looking at the punters and sex trade profiteers.

Blame the prostitute, then we can rest easy – especially as inside the blame is the concept that the prostituted can never be fully human.

So let’s look at the so-called weakness of the prostituted.

A typical line of the sex work lobby is the false idea that the prostituted will know and be able to stop violent punters.

The sex work peddle the line that there is only a few bad apples, that the majority of punters have respect for the prostituted, and would never cross her boundaries.

This shows the sex work are made up of mainly punters, sex trade profiteers and their academic allies – for this so far away from the reality of being inside prostitution.

Violent punters will not know the language of no, will not think buying the prostituted  means he can do whatever he wants – her consent is of no relevance.

Money or gifts is framed as consent – her will, her pain, her fear and her right to remain fully human is pushed away.

So how in that reality, does any prostituted woman have any control or ability to stop his violence.

The sex work have the theory that prostituted can and should access the punter, and turn him away if she has a gut reaction that he is the bad apple.

Ha! That is a sick joke.

It is extremely rare that punters look or act violent, even when they do it almost impossible for a prostituted woman to turn him away.

He is the consumer/customer, he must get what he has paid for – it is his right and entitlement.

For a prostitute to turn away a punter is to place in the line of danger, or to lose access to money.

A punter usually ignored her no, and may use it as an excuse to be more sadist, even to murder her for her moment of resistance.

It is common that prostituted who no too often, are sent to more dangerous aspects of prostitution as punishment.

It is a common ploy of the sex trade to punish prostituted women who dare to say no, by getting sadist punters in, usually gang rapes and extreme anal is used.

Saying no as a prostituted woman can be a death wish.

So how dare anyone call the prostituted weak!